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He doesn't want me.

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sobbingmyheartout · 04/10/2015 13:35

Tell me I will get over him. He was everything I wanted & more. I really loved him. I am heartbroken. How many more stones must I turn before I find the one?

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Wotsitsareafterme · 04/10/2015 13:53

What happened?

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sobbingmyheartout · 04/10/2015 15:16

We dated for quite a while. I was on the point of asking him to be exclusive. On paper he was perfect, very handsome, nice house, good job, great manners, well travelled, same tastes & interests, great sex. I have teens, he wants an 'unemcumbered' woman.

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Sighing · 04/10/2015 15:20

A woman without a strong commitment to work or children or a hobby is not just going to fall out of the sky. He's not worth it. Look for someone who respects that you have your life and is not looking for an accessory to theirs.

brokenhearted55a · 04/10/2015 15:25

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ImperialBlether · 04/10/2015 15:27

He's not worth it. I'm flabbergasted you were having regular sex with him without it being considered an exclusive relationship.

If your family isn't what he wants, he's not worth having.

springydaffs · 04/10/2015 15:30

He wasn't everything you wanted and more - he didn't want your kids. That's pretty fundamental.

Why would you want a man who wants an 'unencumboured' woman? How could you 'really love' someone you have only just met? Why do you want 'the one'?

I appreciate its nice to have a partner but you seem desperate (sorry). Get to know yourself and enjoy yourself and your life. A man can then be an added extra, not the centre of your life.

I'm sorry you're so hurt.

Fairylea · 04/10/2015 15:37

If you have teens and he didn't want to be part of their lives in the way you wanted then he wasn't your dream man at all. Long term you would have grown resentful and grown to hate him (with good reason).

It's always horrible going through a break up but there will be more fish to choose from as cliche as that sounds. You just have to find the one who is right for you, teens and everything else.

springydaffs · 04/10/2015 16:21

Well not always more fish but better to be alone and happy than with a picky partner.

Supermanspants · 04/10/2015 16:27

Oh poor you.
I have children. I experienced a lot of what you are going through.
I have been married to an amazing man for nearly six years for whom my precious children were part of me and part of the 'package'.
They really are out there

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