DH is great. Very practical, sorts out car, house maintenance, bills. He also works hard and earns a good wage but always home before 5.30pm. He keeps fit and has time to do this in evenings before dc are in bed. I am SAHM and appreciate how lucky I am. This has always been a joint decision and DH specifically says he likes things how they are. He just has to go to work and when he gets home everything is relaxed, sorted and he doesn't have anything to do. However, I do feel he walks in, eats tea, talks about his work (boring after a while) and barely even looks at me. I had my hair done the other day - new style and DH didn't even realise until I told him. He seems preoccupied when I talk to him and kind of looks through me not at me. When I tried to tell him, he got annoyed, denied it and said I'd made him feel bad. I always make an effort with my appearance, keep slim and fit but wonder if he realises. The only time he is affectionate is in bed when he wants sex (3-4 times a week). He had a very cold unloving mother which I think hinders him from showing love. All I want is to be told I look nice, and the odd bit of affection during the day, just not sure how to achieve it.