Think he's gone back to his ex. Why do I even care?

[Shouldknowbetter2015]

I have posted about how I split with P about 4 months ago & how he'd gone from loving, caring, can't-believe- he-wants-to-be-with-me man into a distant, depressed verging on abusive man. I spent almost all of our time together listening to him banging on about his exW, how she'd screwed him over, how he couldn't go out any more because all her friends hated him blah blah. Of course, like a fool, I listened & believed it all. But now as I've seen what he's like I do question his version of events. Anyway, I haven't seen him around for ages, not seen his car outside his house (not a stalker, drive past it on way home!) and on nights when I know he has his kids he's not been home either. There's a bit of me thinking he's gone back to his ex... But why am I bothered??? He was a twat, but I still think about him almost every hour. He was toxic & I definitely couldn't be with him again. Feel like I desperate teen (in my 40s!) please talk sense to me ladies...

I think its a normal reaction to be fair.

When a break up happens at some point you just remember the good times.

Your logical side knows he was a dick and you're better off without him but the emotional side doesn't.

Can you drive home a different way? It's hard to get over someone if you have a constant reminder of them.

Thanks for replying Forever. And for saying it's a normal reaction. I just wish I could tell my heart to catch up with my head! There's not really a different way to go but I do try really hard not to look!

Think of it that he's a twat and she's got a short memory. You are the lucky one; you've escaped AND you've kept your memory!

A time will come, before you know it, when you won't care at all what he is doing nor with whom he is doing it! Until then, it is totally normal to feel the way you are feeling...

If you are having trouble when you drive by his place, put your hand next to your face and block your view when you drive by. That way you won't know if his car is there or not, which I think is better for you.

Thanks ladies. I really do try not to look! And I hate Saturday nights by myself. It was always our time. And I hate that I still want him :(

I hope your night went okay. Every Saturday night that passes by brings you closer to feeling indifferent to him!