why do i feel like this

[kitkat1989]

Im married, and i love my husband. hes sweet, and kind and looks after me. But lately ive found myself thinking im missing the new relationship feeling. There arent butterflies and is he gonna kiss me anymore. Theres no wanting to be all over each other or even much spending time together unless its eating or sleeping. we had a big row over it the other day and i said i am really fed up of it all. dh is very unromantic and doesnt really get it. i want to feel like i wanna 'see' my husband again rather than just plodding along :(

'New relationship feelings' only last for as long the relationship is new and it can be far more exciting to know that you are securely ensconced with the love of your life in a long tem commitment to each other.

If you want to 'see' your dh why not set up date nights, either in or out, where you dress up for the occasion and talk about anything and everything except mundane household issues such as whose turn it is to clean the bathroom/take the trash out etc.

If this fails to inject some oomph into your marriage, it could be that you're simply not cut out for the long haul.

Fwiw, I've found that leading by example can turn the most unromantic of men into a soppy sausage.

thankyou for the reply, youve made me feel so much better that im not going insane and being a total douche of a wife