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I think I over-reacted

111 replies

cottonbud · 01/12/2006 14:13

  • [Message from MNHQ: This thread was started in 2006. Just saying...]

I am a regular poster but have changed my name for this as I am a little ashamed.
I have a very short fuse and the simplest of things will infuriate me. DH knows this and so far has managed to avoid the "trigger" words. Today however we were discussing christmas dinner and he called those sausages wrapped in bacon "pigs in blankets" he KNOWS that this phrase sends my temper through the roof, I instructed him to re-phrase the sentance and he said he was sick of walking on egg shells with me so to show him how it felt I started calling him gay and accusing him of being attracted to my brother which I know he hates, he said it was totally different . This incident blew over after he apologised for using the annoying phrase but later on he asked DD if she wanted to start "pony trekking" after christmas admittidly he didn't know that the word pony was a trigger so I explained to him that the word was not to be used and he apologised, 5 minutes later however he again reffered to the horses as "pony's" . I ended up breaking his mobile phone (threw it at him) and now he has stormed off. I know I was in the right over the christmas sausages but I think I may have over-reacted about the horse riding as he only learnt that he couldn't say what he said today. I'm not sure how to make it up to him and tbh I'm still angry about it all, should I just leave it and let it blow over or talk to him?

OP posts:
noddyholder · 01/12/2006 14:26

loony alert!

pooka · 01/12/2006 14:26

Tissy - you're skating on thin ice young lady

tissy · 01/12/2006 14:26

what do you think they should be called, then?

PortAndLemonaid · 01/12/2006 14:27

If this is for real (surely, surely it can't be...?) then you really need professional help.

tissy · 01/12/2006 14:27

she can't get me with a mobile!

mumblechum · 01/12/2006 14:27

You need some therapy.

Actually, no, I don't think this is a serious thread, someone's having a larf.

If it is serious, I feel very very sorry for your poor husband.

HeavenisInherwinterunderwear · 01/12/2006 14:27

How dare you use 'dickhead' it's one of my trigger words. please use Richard Cranium.

santasdoingtheironing · 01/12/2006 14:29

oh dont you just hate it when the op disappears

Sobernow · 01/12/2006 14:29

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cottonbud · 01/12/2006 14:32

some of the trigger words:

"pony"
"crimbo"
"bairns"
"mam"
"pal"
"giggle"
"lash"

when he refers to the car as "the volvo" i mean for gods sake do people really need to know what make it is? I've told him that the next time he calls it "the volvo" I will personally write "volvo" all over it in acid. He knows I mean it too, I did it to his motorbike when he kept calling it "the yamaha".

Other things he says like "sweaty bollocks" (that's his way of saying spaghetti bolognese ) have actually caused me to scratch his face and bring blood. You know claires accessories? well he called it "janes" accessories by accident and that still annoys me to think about it now, I can no longer shop in there thanks to him. Sometimes I feel like I hate him, he winds me up on purpose and I want to punch him so hard

OP posts:
lou33 · 01/12/2006 14:32

hello delgirl

cottonbud you are acting like a dick not your h, i would have walked out on you ages ago, you sound impossible to live with if you are not winding everyone up

dara · 01/12/2006 14:33

This isn't Rhubarb again is it???

WigWamBam · 01/12/2006 14:34

Greensleeves is my bet based on the last post ...

pandagirl03 · 01/12/2006 14:35

Hiya cottonbud, have you ever thought about talking to a doctor about ur "trigger" words. I really think you need to speak to a doctor about this and it must have a affect on your dd.

Kelly1978GotRunOverByAReindeer · 01/12/2006 14:36

Did you hear about the pony and his bairns who set off to jane's ascessories in the volvo (since the yamaha was broken) to buy crimbo presents for his mam. They got them all with a giggle and went out on the lash at the local inalian where they had sweaty bollocks wiht a side order of pigs in blankets.

I don't think it is real neither

HeavenisInherwinterunderwear · 01/12/2006 14:36

You'd best just bury him under the patio then.

Juicythe2ndnotsowiseman · 01/12/2006 14:44

Have you been drinking cottonbud?

Sounds like a drunken rant to me...

Tallie11 · 01/12/2006 14:46

mmmm yummy, Pigs in blankets.........

wannaBe1974 · 01/12/2006 14:48

ah what's that trip trapping over my volvo. oh yes, it's a pig in a blanket

HeavenisInherwinterunderwear · 01/12/2006 14:53

I bet if he e-mails you he uses text speak.

frenchconnection · 01/12/2006 14:54

weirdo weirdo weird weirdo

you need to be carried away like a pig in a (white)blanket

MascaraOHaraIncredibleSheHulk · 01/12/2006 14:57

LMAO

FestivelyFrostyFloss · 01/12/2006 14:58

Of course. It is perfectly reasonable to break peoples property and assault them for saying a (to all others) completely inoffensive word.

themulledSNOWMANneredjanitor · 01/12/2006 15:00

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bythesouthsea · 01/12/2006 15:04

Thankyou for this thread - haven't PMSL so much for ages! Everyone keeps looking at me in the office... Kelly, fab post. Has cottonbud gone out on the lash?