To not want sex with DP all the time

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Hi, had to name change for this.

I have been with DD's dad for 8 years, and we have a four year old daughter together, who has cerebral palsy.

Ever since I met DP, he has always had a higher sex drive than I. We are having problems, well we've always had, as he constantly wants sex and I don't want it that much. We both live separately, because of my work, so we hardly get to see each other or hang out for that matter.

Every time I see DP, or hang out with him, he always wants sex. We can just be in the house, watching a movie and he will be already groping me...wanting sex and I know if I give in, he would start complaining, so I will have sex with him just to keep him quiet.

Today, DP called me and we started talking about our day and he then said he was at home today, and I asked him if I can pop round and we can watch this DVD together. He then started to get a bit flirty and I then knew this would lead in him wanting to have sex with me. I told him that I was not up for it today and can we just hang out without it always leading to sex. He was complaining a bit, I then told him that I was on my period today ( I know I shouldn't of lied) and then he quickly said that I shouldn't pop over anymore, he then proceeded to call me a liar and I was very upset I told him that I don't feel like we are a couple, every time we hang out, it always has to lead to sex, surely normal relationships aren't like this and I also told him that I am very worried about DD, and that he doesn't regularly visit DD on the days he suppose to visit her.

I also told him that his complaining puts me off wanting to have sex with him, I get very tired from looking after DD (as I am the main carer and he practically doesn't do anything, apart from visit her once in a while) and sometimes I just want to relax, hang out and talk.

I know DP has his needs, but am I being a fool? Is he in the right to complain and moan? I feel as if it's all my fault.

No, not normal at all. AT ALL

Oh wow. Thanks CostaCoffee I'll keep that in mind.

Please do

Can I ask what he says? I mean, it's an afternoon at your flat and he's with your daughter. In that setting is he really talking about what type of sex he wants with you? That is awful.

Hi Libraries... Well he hardly has DD, he mainly calls me in the mornings or in the early afternoons, when she's at school...but he mainly talks about what he likes to do with me..etc.

I actually meant when he visited you both. I know he hardly has her

That is fucking appalling. I feel so sad for you. When my husband is away with work we talk about what we've been doing, what we have planned, how the kids are, maybe plans for the weekend or something we watched on telly or was in the news. .... We might have a flirty exchange now and then, but it is horrid for it to have become the core of your conversation.

So he is living in this country because of your daughter, but he rarely sees her and makes no attempt to help you with her? I'd phone immigration and tell them, let them deal with it.

You deserve so much better than this man. He's a disgrace.

Oh sweetheart. Well done for breaking things off. You deserve so much better

Do you think he is faithful to you OP? Maybe worth getting yourself checked over