Beside myself with worry, PLEASE help

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I have been sent a letter to increase child contact. This is from DC father (obviously) who has been absent and unreliable and returned now. I'm really worried that my proposal will get rejected and we'll end up in court. DC is so young... It seems so unfair. I'm beside myself with worry.

Does the letter come out of the blue, without any kind of dialogue with the DC's father first? If so that can feel very aggressive, it's not surprising you're upset.

Do you have concerns about any harm to DC if contact is increased?

Anything that he wants needs to be considered a target based on reliability (if you have no other concerns). I'd suggest mediation and setting a timetable making it very clear that if he can't be reliable it will be a long time before you're prepared to try again.

We don't really talk. DC is so young and has not gone completely alone with DH. Hence, I think should be staged. I'm worried he will reject and go to court thinking he'll get more.

As I told you on your earlier thread, he can't go to court without having first gone through mediation at which time you'll be able to voice your concerns and negotiate child arrangements which are in the best interests of your dd.