What would you make of this situation?

[Susansusan]

I was at a loss as to what to say to a friend of mine who confided in me that the man she is seeing is actually still married.

She's been seeing him 18 months. She says they meet every week sometimes at weekends or weekdays early evening and have contact regularly through the day and into late at night (I queried when they have contact if he's still living with his wife). It seems they have separate rooms and don't get on but have 3 young children. She thinks he will eventually leave when his children are older. I was surprised that his wife doesn't know.
I've always been against affairs but can sort of from this situation see how they happen. What advice do I give as a friend when she asks what do I think? In this situation I don't actually know.

"they have separate rooms and don't get on but have 3 young children" is the oldest line in the book.

It is more than likely that your friend is being spun a line, that he will never leave his wife, is likely still happily sleeping with her, and that it will all turn out very poorly for your friend sooner or later.

It's your choice whether you want to reserve all judgement in your conversations with her, warn her that it will end in tears, or tell her that you're against affairs and so do not want to hear her talk about it, ever.

What sits most comfortably with your values? Do that.

That he has no intention of leaving his wife and that she and the wife both deserve much much better.

He isn't leaving. They don't have separate bedrooms.

"It seems they have separate rooms and don't get on but have 3 young children."

How on earth does your friend think those young children were conceived?

She sounds incredibly naive.

Your friend is really dumb.

The bloke is a prize wanker for lying and cheating. He WILL do the same to your if he ever leaves his wife.

Does your friend have any pride or sense of self worth? Silly mare to get entangled with a married man.