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I've been dating an 'older than me' guy for a year and we live separately, he's recently printed off some photos of us together and put them in photo frames in his house along with some other photos of his boys, and then one of me by his bed....is this a bit weird?? or is it a nice touch..

I'm getting the feeling he might be a bit needy - he says its because he's from the 'South' and they look after their ladies, (whilst I'm from the Midlands and probably used to being treated second best!?)

I don't think it's weird. But I do wonder why, after a year, you aren't having the "shall we move in together" conversation.

Had you said a week. ..
But a year.... that's a lovely gesture.

Ugh, I'd split up with him for saying men from the south look after their ladies! But I'm a curmudgeonly old boot, so that's just me!

I am at the suggestion you ought to be having a moving in together conversation. After a year? Fine if people want to but that's no time at all. And there are plenty of people who choose not to when there are kids involved.

Back to the OP - he's your boyfriend of a year, I don't think having a photo of you is needy at all. I tend to feel people are needy when I'm not keen though.

I don' think having photos is needy but I don't think you would feel it was if you were really into him.

Some people like to have photos of the one they love around.

I don't think that not moving in together after a year is a cause for concern either.

i'd be touched - after a year doesn't sound needy to me - but agree that you don't sound that keen on him in general.

Are you not really that into him? That's the only reason I can think of why you would think this is needy tbh. You have been together a year I can't get why that's needy.

Ladies demands a dumping really!
It's quite nice. I said to my DP once after we'd been dating a while why he didn't have any photos of me on his phone or anywhere. He told me it was because he knew what I looked like

He's changed for the better now, his lock screen is still of the cat but hey-ho.

After a year I don't think that's unusual. But it sounds like he's more into you than vice versa.

I'll be generous and assume the comment about southerners treating women better was an attempt at a joke that fell flat.

It's not needy, but it does sound like he likes you more than you like him.

I do think he really loves me and its really lovely, I'm just not used to being thought of like that, thats all. The 'south' comment was just a tongue in cheek thing.

We live separately at the moment because of my kids and our circumstances - there maybe a point in the future that we discuss moving in together but I'm not ready for that yet.

I get why it's odd if you never had that, but sounds lovely.

If it helps I'm not one for having photos up, even when I was married I never had a photo of our wedding day or even if him or us.
But with current boyfriend I have one of those very unmumsnetty cheesy photo frames that say "every love love story is beautiful but ours is my favourite " with a picture if us in it by the side off my bed.

I don't do sap normally, hes the cheesy romantic one but it just felt right and it makes me smile every time I look at it.
I guess he's sappyness is rubbing off on me lol.

How many photos?

One or two, fine.

Six or seven, creepy.