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I'm so depressed

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LL1321 · 30/09/2015 04:30

since I've been married I've been so unhappy I don't even know to smile or laugh that how bad is it. we hardly talk we hardly ever go out he never wants to take the kids out he hate doing things with us and the only time he has interes is when he wants sex. My family is very supportive but i don't tell them anything even though they know something is wrong. I feel so depressed because I can't talk to anyone because I feel so ashamed I keep everything inside I don't know What to do I just hate him I can't stand him

What do I do please help

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marzipan123 · 30/09/2015 04:43

The first thing that comes to mind is to sit him down and tell him exactly what you have written in this message. Then see what his response is.
He may be totally unaware of how you feel. He may be happy to make changes. You have to tell him how you feel. Surely that is the first step? Then take it from there. If he is not interested in making changes you can then decide what you want to do about it. Haven't you got a good sensible friend you can trust who you can talk to. Or your mum? Don't just carry on and do nothing. Nothing will change unless you initiate it. Good luck.

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LL1321 · 30/09/2015 04:53

I do have friends I just don't talk to them about my problems I feel embarrassed and ashamed. And when ever I do want to talk all I do is cry and I never say what I want because i keep everything in side. Everyone is getting on my nervous because I have so much anger inside

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marzipan123 · 30/09/2015 06:30

What have you to be ashamed of? You say your husband doesn't want to take the kids out, and doesn't want to do things with you. Why would you be ashamed of that? You are not doing anything to be ashamed of. Is it that you don't want to admit to people that all is not well in your relationship?
What about discussing things with your husband? Isn't that possible?
You are obviously not sleeping well, which is why you are awake now! Perhaps if you feel depressed and weepy it would help,to see your doctor and have a check up.it isn't a good thing to just carry on and not deal with things. It won't get better if you don't do something to change it.

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