It's been rumbling along for a few years but has really kicked off since we moved away from our home town.
Mil friend rang DH the other day with Mil crying in the background saying sil had been going round saying some pretty awful stuff about mil including derogatory names.
Now mil can be a pita but it's not altogether her fault, she's had a rough few years with fil dying and having to move home and retiring plus a long term illness that does affect her mood etc.
Mil thinks sil is blaming her for fil death because mil moved him into a care home. Fil would regular go missing and lash out it was getting way to dangerous for them to live safely together anymore. It wasn't the easiest choice at all but it had to be done.
Mil to her credit has bent over backwards for my sil and regularly baled her out and bought stuff when asked.
Do you think sil is struggling with her grief still? I lost my dad and went off the rails so this reminds me of that. I can't approach sil she really doesn't like me and makes it clear to DH and mutual friends. DH says this happens to much and is done with it all but obviously will continue to support mil