hi
my dh is currently working on a new project for work.
A week ago I was in town with my friends and dh supporting him at a work event. A female colleague who I did not know approached him, kissed him on the cheek and hugged him then ignored us and buggered off.
This last week, 3 times, he came in once at 1am, and twice at 12am.
He has told me he is finishing at a certain time, but come in an hour later.
The day after he worked until 1am he said he would not go in to work due a family crisis (which I won't go into or might out myself).
Suddenly at lunch time,whilst at college, I get a text message saying he was meeting a colleague for coffee at 1pm. he had said he was not going into work because he was tired, and had agreed to pick me up after my lesson, but as I finished early, I thought i would give him a ring. He did not answer my calls for 20 minutes, despite also phoning his work mobile as I was worried an rang it. I thought it was odd he was ignoring my calls when he was supposed to be having a 'casual' coffee with a colleague. I gave him the car on condition that he was available to pick me up.
A rl friend thinks that if someone was working a late night and with having the family crisis, he would not have gone to meet this colleague for a coffee and caught up on his sleep from the night before.
he has also been disengaged, I have been trying to discuss what I have been studying and revising and he is showing no interest at all.
Tonight, we had been out at a family dinner, and his work phone rang at 7pm. He wasn't going to answer it and just stared at it. We all looked at him and I said are you going to get it then must be emergency at 7pm on a Sunday. When he answered, someone spoke, he did not say sorry I am with family can this wait till tomorrow, he said I am afraid I cannot talk right now. When I asked him who it was in front of everyone he said his male colleague, then when I asked him about it later he said he had told someone to phone him tonight. I think someone is telling a few fibs, I feel because of my trust issues, he has started lying to me about meeting female colleagues. His face lit up after the phone call despite trying to disguise who it was. What do people advise.
My gut instinct is going haywire, but I am trying to trust him because this is an important project for him.