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Update on a$$hole

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LoveLetters · 27/09/2015 12:32

After stepping on my feet this morning and me squealing in pain he told me to shut up. When I told him again I didn't appreciate the way he spoke to me he said
"We will always have problems because you are too opinionated, you don't know your role and you aren't the sharpest pencil in the box" this isn't right is it? I've told him I'm disgusted and I've had enough. I'm not over reacting am I. This isn't right.

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pinkyredrose · 27/09/2015 12:34

No its not right, he thinks you're beneath him.

gamerchick · 27/09/2015 12:35

But have you actually had enough to do something about it?

Orangeisthenewbanana · 27/09/2015 12:35

No you are not overreacting.

No that isn't right at all.

I get the feeling the way he speaks to you has been an ongoing issue. And the way he responds when you communicate that to him is to blame you and insult you!

Two words. Get. Rid.

spudlike1 · 27/09/2015 12:39

He is awful....

kestrell · 27/09/2015 12:40

he is a condescending dickhead who gets some sick kick out of thinking he is above you. get away from him. he will bring you down

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LoveLetters · 27/09/2015 12:41

He's just come upstairs and is now acting like he doesn't know what he has said wrong.

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pinkyredrose · 27/09/2015 12:43

You'd had enough on your thread the other day. He won't change , he treats you with contempt, only stay if you want more of the same.

AnyFucker · 27/09/2015 12:43

That's not an update, it's just more of the same

Chronicle his shitty behaviour here for as long as you like, but you need to take some action.

goddessofsmallthings · 27/09/2015 12:44

Are you married to him? Do you have dc? What will it take to end your relationship with this misogynistic git who, having physically hurt you, tells you you're an opinionated dolt who doesn't know your place as his doormat/whipping boy/slave?

AttilaTheMeerkat · 27/09/2015 12:52

This is really yet more of the same old

And you are together at all because...

Is this really what you want to teach your children about relationships, that this is actually how couples behave?. What did you learn about relationships when growing up?.

Fairenuff · 27/09/2015 12:59

Why are your suprised by his behaviour OP? None of us are.

Yes, it was a shitty thing to do. Yes, he has done it before. Yes, he will do it again.

What are you not getting here?

HazleNutt · 27/09/2015 13:03

he actually told you that nothing will change and he will always treat you like shit, because he thinks that's all you deserve.
Of course this isn't right, but people have been telling you the same thing in every thread you've posted. I'm also not sure what you expect from those threads?

BitterAndOnlySlightlyTwisted · 27/09/2015 13:05

I'm disappointed that this isn't a real update. This is a report of the same old shit you've been enduring.

He's told you what kind of man he is. He's told you what he thinks of you. Please start listening and do something about it! I'd rather leave and sleep on a pal's sofa than continue to live with this cunt.

You are not inextricable bound to him just because you have a child together. You have choices and you need to exercise them asap or suffer the same old shit and have your self-confidence eroded until there's nothing left of you.

goddessofsmallthings · 27/09/2015 13:39

He's the allegedly 'once in a blue moon' cokehead, isn't he? As there's a blood red moon tonight, I suggest you hide any paper money you have in your purse and put your plastic in a safe place too.

Did you put his family on notice so that, in the event that he pops his clogs while hoovering a line up his nose, you won't have to explain why you failed to tell them of your fear that he may have a heart attack while snorting inferior coke that's been cut with a variety of harmful chemicals?

Joysmum · 27/09/2015 13:50

He physically hurt you and called you stupid and belittled you for being in pain.

To put that into perspective, if you'd accidentally hurt him, what would your reaction have been?

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LoveLetters · 27/09/2015 14:10

He has done coke for months now. That problem seems to have gone. I'm no choice now but to go

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Scobberlotcher · 27/09/2015 14:27

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goddessofsmallthings · 27/09/2015 14:35

What is the situation with regard to your home? Is it jointly owned/rented or in his sole name? Are you married or living together?

I seem to recall you are expecting another dc. Do you have family/friends who can support you through the changes that you know need to happen in order to protect yourself and your dc from his unacceptable behaviour?

amarmai · 27/09/2015 14:54

so your'role' in his play is to be stepped on by him and act like its ok or maybe even like it. Is it possible he stepped on you deliberately so he could give you this instruction ? Get ready for the next painful lesson if you accept this one. What will you dc 's 'role' be?

FantasticButtocks · 27/09/2015 20:32

It doesn't sound like you are overreacting, no. Maybe you could react even more?

0dfod · 28/09/2015 09:57

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hellsbellsmelons · 28/09/2015 10:01

If you don't get on the carousel, you won't go round in circles.

Time for action - but are you ready?

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