Help with logistics

[NewNameNoFace]

Hi I've NC but have been around for a while. I know you are all brilliant at advice and I need help.

I have 1DC aged 3 and am 7 months pregnant.

My relationship hasn't been the best but given circumstances above seemed pretty normal.

DP drunk drove the other night/early morning and crashed. luckily only he was involved and wasn't hurt but was taken by the police.

I hate drunk drivers, he could have easily killed himself or others. He has never done anything like this but has 'fucked up' in the past regarding other things that causes trust issues that were resolved in time.

My head is a mess but I feel I am better than this and I want out. I shouldn't have to keep dealing with his mess.

However I have no idea what I am doing financially, I can't afford rent alone as I will be starting Matt leave soon.

Actually moving me and DC out while heavily pregnant, I don't think I could do that physically or emotionally.

It seems so clear in my head this is what I want then when I think about it, it scares the shit out of me.

Thanks for making it this far!

Do you have a friend to talk to in real life - someone who could help you move?

Also these

It sounds as if the pregnancy may have crystallised your thoughts. There are posters here with far more relevant knowledge than me, but I did want to send a friendly shoulder-squeeze.

I agree with TITLT, roping in as much help as possible makes good sense. I think you can claim tax credits but don't know which benefits you could get.

Who's on your current tenancy? Would he leave if you asked?

Thank you!

Yes have got RL people around me, nobody I would want to stay with temporary as I think that would be too disruptive for DC.

I go between my mind being made up to then thinking how would my other half cope without me. He is going to loose so much when he loses his liscence.... But he is an adult and he made that choice when he decided to drive.

there is some good advice on CAB I have looked at and will make an appointment to speak to someone on Monday.

I just want what is best for me and my DC but I don't know if I am being too emotional/hormonal right now.

House we are in I would no way afford alone, was thinking of possibly moving into a small flat, fresh start that way.

There is enough space to live together but separate rooms but I will just mother him then, probably take on his problems again, surely I deserve more than that.

But then the actual thought of having a newborn and a toddler whilst living alone scares me so much.

Sounds like you would benefit from talking it through with someone - to help you decide. Take a little time, talk to friends. Take care of yourself and try to get some rest so you can think straight.

Thanks guys, it's amazing how much talking to strangers on the Internet at 2am can help

I think it's safe to say there is always someone on here who's happy to help!

When you have 2 little people instead of one little person to love, your love grows exponentially.

When you have two little people to care for, you become a sound and solid unit of three whose individual needs are met without effort or stress.

In other words, you do it because you have to and, properly done, it becomes a pleasure and a joy to fulfil the destiny you have chosen for yourself and your dc.

Enjoy it! It will pass all too soon and it won't come again in this lifetime.