If you are married (or living together), with kids...

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...and a part time job, how often do you see family/friends? DH and I seem to have different ideas about what is normal!

I see friends or family (as in specifically arrange to meet up with them) once or twice a week plus many instances of chatting at school gates, hanging around at extra-curricular activities etc.

Mostly the pre-arranged get togethers are in school hours so no childcare issues. Pre-school age it was with children, and still is in the holidays.

No hard and fast rule really. Probably see my parents every other week and my husband's every six weeks or so (because she lives quite far away). My friends I see weekly but that's not big night outs or anything.

It's hard to define what is 'normal' as you might live very close and therefore do a lot of popping in for cups of tea or live far away and have to do whole weekends with them.

If we're talking about going out on your own evenings / weekends and DH doing childcare, probably one or two evenings a month, some purely social, some committee meetings, plus I do two evening exercise classes a week. If we see people at weekends it's usually as a family.

I think it depends on circs as well.

We see a reasonable amount of family - both sides - mine do quite a bit of childcare and some of his too, and his family are close so see each other a fair bit casually.

We all live very local to each other.

Same with friends - I meet friends in my lunch break (most work close) or locally in the evening, he doesn't see much of his friends I encourage him to more.

We do very little "proper" stuff ie all going as a family to properly "visit" people - it's a lot more ad-hoc, last minute, off the cuff and random and rarely with all of us. So things like going round to people's houses for BBQ / lunch, meeting people specifically in pubs / cafes etc that sort of thing, really hardly ever.

Also it doesn't matter what you do as long as everyone's happy. What is "normal" is neither here nor there really.

Hmm, DH has commented that I am exceptionally sociable, which I think is rubbish. I see friends once or twice a week, usually with children, and family about once a fortnight. We rarely socialise together with others, about once a month or less. We both enjoy going out as a family with the children. He doesn't specifically meet up with friends, but has a sociable job and a sociable hobby, whereas I work at home.
But I can see from the above replies that I am entirely normal and will enjoy telling him so in the morning, thanks!

You seeing your friends doesn't take you away from "family time" does it, I read that you're doing it with the kids while he's away at work. So not sure what his complaint is (if he's complaining! rather than just commenting).

If his hobby takes him away from family time then it sounds like he gets more time socialising than you!

Not complaining, just 'commenting'! But I still found it a bit annoying!

We see friends out for dinner 2x a week and will arrange to see another family at least one day of the weekend. I also go out another night on my own.

Family loads, friends not as much except for playdates. I don't think you're 'excessively sociable'!