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Ladies, does she have a problem with me?

28 replies

Mno148 · 25/09/2015 18:03

Right so i know a woman, who just seems to dislike me? An example of her behaviour. She will barely look me in the eyes, like literally as if I'm not there. She was showing something to her friend (girl) when I came, she asked if I would like to also see it, so she showed me, but she didn't make any eye contact with me at all, when I was asking her questions she would answer but look more in the direction of her friend, she also seemed uncomfortable, touching her throat the whole time I was in there. She also went on to talk but always looking at her friend and not looking at me once, as if I wasn't there! even though I was asking her questions. *Then later on we were in a group and she started to make fun of me in front of everyone, and didn't seem uncomfortable at all?
i saw her again she barely looked at me, with another person in the room she responded to him, but she just seemed quiet, because I was there? And when I said soemthing to her she didn't really respond or look at me just smiled. She will also seem nervous with me, i think shes a nervous person but comes across as blunt sometimes. Then sometimes she will seem fine.
I'm confused is she just socially awkward?

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FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse · 25/09/2015 18:06

I'm no lady.

I don't know her so couldn't possible say. It could be anything.

Why are you asking? Do you like her?

MerdeAlor · 25/09/2015 18:09

I'm no lady either.

Why are you bothered, are you hoping someone will say she probably fancied you?

So what if she doesn't like you? Perhaps there is something about you she doesn't warm to - it happens.

TenForward82 · 25/09/2015 18:10

There's a friend of my DH's who is just too shy to look me in the eye. He does it with people he doesn't know that well. He'll have a conversation with me just fine.

I wouldn't assume it's dislike.

SassyPasty · 25/09/2015 18:11

You are actually asking whether she fancies you, aren't you?

If you want her to, I would drop the 'ladies' and ' girl' terms for a start Grin

patriciapractical · 25/09/2015 18:13

I'm no lady.

springydaffs · 25/09/2015 18:28

Are you a man or a woman?

molyholy · 25/09/2015 18:33

I agree you want replies saying she fancies you like mad.

spanisharmada · 25/09/2015 18:38

I'm crap at looking people in the eye and come across as shy when I first meet them, so my vote would be for socially awkward. But, hard to know really having never met her.

(I am a Lady Grin )

FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse · 25/09/2015 18:41

Surely you're an invasion fleet! :o

ElderlyKoreanLady · 25/09/2015 18:43

She just doesn't know you well and seems shy IMO. You should stop looking too much into it.

it would be a grievous mistake to call me a lady

springydaffs · 25/09/2015 18:53

If you haven't got the hint, op, women don't like being called ladies.

Fatrascals · 25/09/2015 18:55

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Mno148 · 25/09/2015 19:01

No iam not looking for you to say she fancies me. I have known her for years but she's become like this. She used to be a lot more comfortable, I don't know what or why this has happened.
And sorry for calling you 'ladies'....

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Sunshineandsilverbirch · 25/09/2015 19:02

You have worded your OP in such a way that it's impossible to give you an opinion. We don't know if you are the same sex or not, we don't know your relationship to each other eg colleagues, we don't know your history (have you met before) we don't know what the event was or why you think she was making fun of you.

On the basis of what you've said, it could be either.
She is angry with you
She is shy of strangers
She hates your guts
You embarrassed her with whatever you said to her
You are a crashing bore
Maybe she wasn't feeling well (touching throat)

Maybe you smell - impossible to say really.

Sunshineandsilverbirch · 25/09/2015 19:03

Ah cross post. If it's recent - the most like thing is that you've upset/annoyed her.

FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse · 25/09/2015 19:03

If it's a recent change, you could have done something that offended her?

queenoftheknight · 25/09/2015 19:20

Touching the neck often means feeling threatened. She also avoids eye contact. Hmmmmmmm. I wonder?

Ladies? HA HA HA HA HA!

Frecklesandspecs · 25/09/2015 19:28

Maybe you got a bit too close for comfort one time?
Maybe she's just irritated by you?
Maybe she's heard something?
If it wasn't a recent change, I'd say she's socially awkward (like my good self), intimidated or fancies you a little.

So really we haven't narrowed it down! Hmm

Frecklesandspecs · 25/09/2015 19:30

I don't have a problem with being called a lady really. Grin (not that I am one)

Mno148 · 25/09/2015 19:33

It's not a very sudden change but has happened overtime, I don't know how I have intimidated her, maybe it's just my face. She just seems nervous when talking to me, like she's scared. But she still polite, as am I too her. I'm shy myself so sometimes probably come across as a bit weird.

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Mno148 · 25/09/2015 19:35

But then in a group she openly made fun of me. When I was with her talking with the other girl, I teased her a little maybe she took that the total wrong way, if she that sensitive.

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VulcanWoman · 25/09/2015 19:36

What about asking her if you've offended her in any way, it would bug me and I'd have to ask.

VulcanWoman · 25/09/2015 19:38

What the heck is wrong with Ladies and Gentlemen.

Scobberlotcher · 25/09/2015 19:39

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Frecklesandspecs · 25/09/2015 19:39

Depends what you teased her about! Grin