My new partner doesn't want anymore kids

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Help, I'm a mum of a beautiful 5 year old and my marriage didn't work out because my ex cheated on me. Anyway I have found a new partner who already has two children one 10 the other 14. When we got together I said that he needed to be aware that I wanted another baby, he said he was not adverse to the idea. Weeks went on then he broke down to me saying he's been there done that and doesn't want anymore and then went and got a vasectomy. Now I want another child and I don't know what to do? Should I just accept it or should I leave? Apart from this issue everything else is perfect between us. I'm so lost I need help?...

Well at least the decision has been made, and you're not facing years of hoping he'll change his mind.

Your feelings are valid though, and having another child must have been a big deal for you to mention it right off the bat. It's a new relationship and you're probably seeing him at his very best right now. I hope you won't feel resentful in a few years. (Though at 34 you don't have to rush into a decision. I have two friends who are currently pregnant at 40!)

We have been together for a year

I think it is quite responsible to decide 2 children is sufficient for you to support, plus a step child, and to have a vasectomy. I am quite impatient that nowadays people seem to think they have to have a child with every partner. I admire this man for not wanting to water down the financial and emotional commitment he already has to his 2 children by having more.

It is your choice OP, whether you love this man enough to be his life partner, or it is more important to you to find a baby daddy.