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DP's family wind me up so much

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Olay · 30/11/2006 14:32

I have to get this off my chest.

When I first got with DP he lived with his parents, I was more or less homeless so ended up moving in with them, I appretiated this obviously. At first it was ok, is younger sisters were still at school, his eldest brother worked and his elder sister no longer lived with them. Now the whole thing has turned into a nightmare, whilst DP works his sisters persistantly come into our bedroom to watch our TV or play on his computer so I got no privacy, his elder sister visits most days and she has two little kids aged 3 who are wild, they just run around screaming constantly, I'm at college and often sit in our room to study (the only quiet room in the house) and when they get sick of the kids screeching they dump them in our room and close the door!! in other words telling me to take care of them, they then bring their dinner into our room (the 3 year olds) and sit on our bed with it, gravy being spilt all over the bed and carpet, room stinking of food, things getting broken, I have no time to myself, when the little kids are not here the sisters come and sit in our room, it's driving me crazy but we have no money to move out and I've mentioned the situation to dp but he's used to living in a madhouse and doesnt see what my problem is.

OP posts:
fortyplus · 30/11/2006 22:37

Fit a bolt on the bedroom door?

Honestlyme · 02/12/2006 10:13

I would say politely say to everyone that you are doing college work and need some privacy. Explain calmly why its important to you. Although i tried to be polite to my partner's family and now they hate me so maybe i'm not the best person to give you advice

fortyplus · 03/12/2006 12:11

Olay - have you spoken to your local Council's Housing Needs Dept? It sounds very much as though you would be classified as living in overcrowded accommodation. Things like sharing bathroom & kitchen facilities are taken into account, even though it's DP's family.
If you're a student you would get Housing Benefit. How old are you? Most Councils will now house you from age 16 - in the past it was 18 but there is widespread recognition that some younger people need to live independently.

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