Is he interested or AIBU?

[AniVee]

So I've been seeing this guy for 6 years now and all this time he's told me he needs to have sex to feel emotionally connected to me. He ignores me most of the time and then when he hears I'm dating someone else he contacts me everyday! Finally after many years we had sex and he's still acting the same. What's his problem?

What's his problem?

He's a dickhead

He doesn't want you, but doesn't want anyone else to have you.

He uses you for sex

Block and delete and move on to someone who will make you happy

What moly just said ^

6 years FFS? Other women have been married and divorced twice or more during that length of time

Do you really need to be told that all you are to this tosser is his long term booty call?

He only shows you attention when he thinks there's a danger you might bestow your sexual affections on another man and the question is why haven't you?

As moly has said, block, delete, and move on.

He waited 6 years to have sex with you?

Finally after many years we had sex

Are you saying you've been in a relationship with someone for 6 years and you've only just had sex? Why is that? And why were you dating someone else as well?

We've been friends for 6 years and I dated other guys because I was sick of waiting for him to ask me out, but when other men showed me attention he'd call and text me constantly so that I'd leave them to give him attention

"he'd call and text me constantly so that I'd leave them to give him attention"

Well, don't do that anymore.

And actually turn your question round and say what's your problem?
Why on earth would you ditch other men after the first time you learned he was like this?
He just likes you dangling. You'll never work out exactly why, so don't waste your mental energy. Channel it into working why you're will to dangle.

I guess I need to get some self esteem then lol thanks for your opinions, I needed people who didn't know either of us for their opinions

There's a difference between seeing someone for 6 years and being friends with someone for 6 years.

Anyway, to put it bluntly, he's a jerk.

I was dating him on and off TripTrap

He was quite obviously using you and you let him.

Did this not occur to you at any point? You dumped men who were genuinely interested in you, even though you knew what he was offering? More than once?

Why?!!

He is interested only in keeping you as a toy. He's an arsehole, get rid, you're worth so much more.