Your thoughts on this please...

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A friend of mine has told me his is having an affair. I wasn't at all surprised as he has a track record of it (I don't know his wife but she must be a saint) but what stunned me is that its with his best friends wife! I'm not condoning ANY affair but he couldn't understand the magnatude of the fallout should it ever come to light!!! As far as he's concerned its (and I quote) 'the best sex I have ever had'. (typical - thinking with his dick). Of all the affairs he has had over the years that I have known about - this is the one that has left me gobsmacked. I don't think there's anything I could say thats going to get him to end it - just wondered if anyone had witnessed the fallout of something similar?

My thoughts are "WHAT A TWAT".
If i were you, i would stear clear, tell him to do one and i would have nothing to do with him again.
Let him stew in his own shit on his own doorstep.

Sorry, you did ask.

No experience, but I would keep him at arms length. If he will screw over his "best friend", he is not to be trusted. And he clearly has a big mouth, so I would be very careful about telling him anything confidential.

We have a circle of friends and last year one guy had an affair with the wife of his friend, this woman was also his own wifes best friend. Both side has kid's and the fallout has been awful, divorce on one side and a 'for the sake of the kid's' marriage on the other. Imagine being betrayed by not only your spouse but your best friend too. The social politics of it is too messy now and basically noone gets together as a group anymore as it's you can't invite everyone so hence no birthday gatherings, bbq's or christmas parties. It seems we all see each other a lot less now, it's very sad.

I wouldn;'t have anything to do with him. I totally disagree with anyone having an affair friends or no friend. Also the fact that he told you "the best sex I have ever had" imo if way OTT and tmi..!!! I hope you told him so. !?

I wouldn't get involved and keep out of it.

Well I experienced this with my oldest friend, she had an affair with her husbands friend, whos girlfriend was one of her friends!! They all would go out on a saturday nite together, basically they were dating in full view of spouses. Then all hell let loose, he got drunk at her house whilst his girlfriend was there having a girlie nite in with her (just turned up) then blurted it all out, she denied it, he declared undying love, even managing to climb up a very large conifer at one point, hiding hoping his girlfreind would leave thinking he had left, the prat, the tree has never been the same since, always cockeyed. Then when she admitted it, his girlfriend said he had lost her mind and was having problems and she had obviously used her charms and money to influence him!!!!!!! then both couples split. Wait it gets better, the married couple get divorced, the ex husband sleeps with the other girlfriend, after she declares shes a lesbian says she was trying to piss the ex wife off. The ex husband also goes and sleeps with the barmaid at the local pub,whos parents they are friends with!! the ex wife then sleeps with the bestfriend of the girlfriend (hes a male friend!!) then sleeps with the bestfriend of the boyfriend. Oh in the mean time the ex wife goes and buys a house oppisite the boyfriends because he has a new girlfriend, and shes not a happy bunny! And to top it all, the now divorced couple get back together, and the other couple work for them, one as a gardener the other as a builder. if thats not enough to put anyone off a relationship with a friends wife then i dont know what is. Oh and she sold the house to the sister in law of the ex boyfriend, which the exboyfriend is now seeing, who is the mother of the exgirlfriends brothers child!! who needs Corrie.