Does sex with friends ruin friendship?

[Alicejohnson23xxxx]

Slept with a male "friend" told me he loves me.
We slept together then he said it was a mistake.
Friendship over eh!

Alicejohnson23xxxx so he's off you Christmas care therapy list then
that 'll learn him;!.

Yep bin there and had that happen, the knocked feelings that is .

Hope you find a decent one next there're like rocking horse muck sometimes.

Supermanspants you must be thinking what I'm thinking, OP does your friend have a girlfriend?

No he is single
Why?

In that case I apologise.

There's a certain poster who created a few threads about shagging her not single friend, none of the MN advice was listened to.

Ignoring MN advice why the poster had all that's coming to them !.

I remain Yours most Indignant! Tunbridge wells;!.

Are you drunk?
Jesus wept

Ah, you probably didn't see that Monty python sketch;-)

Its humour of an acquired taste, or lack of it;!.

Ouch @ you fancy him

Chin up, and onto the next

He really didn't need to profess his love did he bloody hell what a dick.

The first guy I slept with was a close friend who was a bit of a twat later - I gritted my teeth and basically martyred myself to stay friends, and while I'd say it was worth it in the end it was very very hard at times. The only reason I bothered was because a big part of me was convinced he wasn't a fundamentally bad person (yeah yeah, I can hear the collective eyeroll from here ), just selfish and shit when it came to relationships. The friendship part was worth saving imo, although it was irrevocably changed after that.

The upshot is it's not impossible to stay friends, but only you can decide whether it's worth it. If you didn't know him well in the first place and he was a knob after only one time then may as well cut your losses and move on I'd say

It doesn't sound like he was actually a friend from your later post, just someone you knew and had talked to a bit, and the flirting had been going on a while.
Honesty, it doesn't sound like this was ever a friendship, so the question's a bit moot.
So don't worry about ruining a friendship that wasn't there. He has behaved badly though, sorry you were on the receiving end of that

Question. How is a friendship different from a relationship when in both cases your having sex;?.

I've wondered that too justaboy - I'd say in a relationship there should be at least some level of commitment and exclusivity (unless it's a poly relationship I guess but I've never come across one of them irl). And probably more expectation of regular sex too.

I've never been in a fwb situation where I'd have felt comfortable calling it a relationship, even if there was nothing stopping us. Not quite sure why but I think maybe it's something to do with knowing we're not really compatible for anything more serious.

Sex doesn't ruin friendships - faking emotions to get somebody to have sex with you ruins "friendships". I'd not want this man as a friend or a lover, he sounds awful!

You're very lucky that he didn't string you on for months before showing you his true colours, though it's still shit.