Randomly asking someone out on a date!?

[Arsenal123]

There's a girl I know - she was a year above me in college and we're friends on Facebook although we've never properly spoken. I like her and am thinking of asking her on a date. She manages a shop in town so I thought I'd show my face in there and buy something/get chatting and take it from there. Is this a good idea? Any suggestions?

Definitely get chatting before asking her out. Maybe when you do ask her out make it very casual, like a coffee? If you find out her interests you can make a date around that, cinema, gig, museum, bowling?
Good luck!

Go in there, get chatting...you have mutual common ground, right?

You could be missing out on something wonderful! Go - make your life happen!

Good luck and let us know how it goes?

"Faint heart 'ner won fair lady" So my old gran used to say and she was always right!.

Go for it ask her, DO NOT be afraid if she says no that's what you really are fearing. Rejection is very hard to take but just man up it might impress her:)

Haven't you only just broken up with someone else though? Give it a bit of time first!

I'm fresh out of a relationship and not ready to date again but I just wanted advice. I don't have too much to lose anymore.

I think this is creepy! Smacks a bit of quick quick who can I get with next trawling your Facebook to find a potential squeeze. Rebound panic facebook trawling.

If you're not ready to date then don't ask anyone out on a date

But when you are ready ... when you say "randomly", do you mean that you're not actually bothered about her, but she's a random available female so you thought you might try? If so, well I guess it would be a bit like a blind date and you might turn out to like her ... but if you discover you don't, then drop it. Don't start a relationship with someone you're not really into. It does no-one any favours.

Gosh, there's nothing more flattering than a bloke I've never spoken to creeping on my FB to find out where I work, then coming to where I work and asking me to be his rebound fling.

If he phrased it as "I'm not ready to date again but I thought, well, I don't have anything to lose" I'd be so flattered I think my knickers would just kinda fall off automatically.

What do you mean when you say you don't have much to lose?

OP don't let some posters change your mind.
You have nothing to lose.

Try and sort a date out for tonight so you don't have to watch arsenal get spanked by the mighty spurs COYS

I just meant when I'm ready to move on I will have nothing to lose. After my ex's betrayal I've felt very low. I will build myself back up and move on when ready.

I know the girl from college but that was years ago. I've always thought she seemed nice and she is very beautiful. I would be after a rebound fling - I'm the type to come off worse emotionally :-/

Kingie1

OP there is never a right time to ask someone. People start relationships in all sorts of emotional states. Some of it work out and some doesn't.
You are not asking to marry this women, it's only a date.

You do sound a bit low! Maybe at least wait until you see a date as being fun more than anything else? You know, someone to go out with for some nice conversation and a bit of flirting, rather than the next person to potentially stamp on your hopes .