Slept over at ex's

[KayDee81]

Really confused about my feelings now... My ex messaged me friday evening asking if i was doing anything (we do speak casually so this wasnt really a random message) he was pretty much hinting for me to come round and because id had a few glasses of wine, i agreed. not the best idea i know, i hadnt seen him for two months. Anyway, I got there and we really just chilled out and watched films with a few beers, then went to sleep. He didnt try to initiate sex or anything, im just confused because i assumed it was a booty call but now im thinking otherwise? Am i just being silly??

Depends. Why did you split?

He ended it. Its a long story but the relationship was really intense really quick, he said he didnt want a serious relationship and to be tied down and i agreed

"really intense really quick" doesn't sound like good news. Those are the kinds of relationships where it is best to go cold turkey when they end, or you risk a messy drawn-out period of on-again, off-again that just messes with your head.

In general.

How do you feel about this friendship? About the fact that the relationship ended? Do you feel happy, confident, stable? Or is there uneasiness, yearning, confusion...?

Agree with rice. I think you should ask for a clear agenda before you spend time with him for self preservation

By 'intense' i just mean we both rushed into the relationship stage. When it ended i was a bit disapointed but relieved at the same time, we spent too much time together so im thinking now if we play it cool it could maybe work out?

Well, the risk is that one person's "playing it cool" is another person's booty call.

Know what it is that you want, first. And then don't settle for anything else.

What do you want in a relationship? Not with this particular guy, just romantic relationships in general. What would your ideal scenario look like? Now, do this guy's action match that scenario? If they do, great. If they don't, just busy yourself elsewhere.

Thanks for the reply, it really made me think. I dont know what i want, something causual i guess- seeing eachother when free as we both work full time jobs so busy most of the week. Im just so confused about how i feel!