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How much is too much contact

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curlybap2015 · 20/09/2015 18:36

hi,

this is my first thread so I don't know if it's in the right place. Up to 2 weeks ago I was with a lovely man. he made me feel like I was a princess and always said we would be together for forever and a day. He has 2 children from a previous marriage and he had them up to stay the last week in July. They had a great time and we both loved having them up. When they went back to their Mam, he totally changed towards me. its like a switch went off. He wouldn't get in contact with me. He wouldn't talk. He wouldn't tell me he loved me and wouldn't kiss or touch me. For the whole month of August his ex was off with the kids and would constantly text him about what they were doing. It was texting from morning to night. He would go down and see them alot and within ten minutes of getting home there would be a text or voice message from the kids saying how much they missed him. And you can hear her in the background telling them what to say. He then told me he missed them and wanted them all the time but didn't want to go back to his ex. so he has ended our relationship but still has his old routine with the kids. I know he still loves me but the contact with her is totally consuming him and I can't seem to change that. how do I get him to see that he is ending a perfectly good relationship for no reason.

OP posts:
MakeItACider · 20/09/2015 18:45

I don't think you can. He can only move on when he is ready to move on himself.

How long were you together?

curlybap2015 · 20/09/2015 19:03

We were together 18 months. It's just so hard. I have 2 children as well and I've gone through dark days when i didnt have them all the time but never ever wanted to end things. I had planned the rest of my life around him. And now it's gone

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brokenhearted55a · 20/09/2015 20:57

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