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Pegs22 · 20/09/2015 14:22

Hi everyone I am sorry if this is in the wrong place.
But I feel so trapped and deceived and confused.
I have a beautiful DD who is 15 and I love her so much.
I recently got remarried after 4 years of being with my current husband who has one Son who is 17!
And in my eyes horrible my DH gives him £80 a month and a futher £40 for his sports clubs which is okay and I'm not petty but my DD does not get the same as he says we cannot afford it!
I work hard too.
Then there's the baby issue He told me we would have another child etc but now we are married he's suddenly changed his mind and he knew how much I wanted another baby.
sad I feel like crying all the time, he is so selfish now we are married I rarely get treated nice yet he's always telling me what his ex wife got and what she didn't which is more than me!
I have three tops to my name one pair of trainers which are split and one coat and two pairs of jeans that's my entire wardrobe!
Yet his son who is so ungrateful gets everything me and my DD are in a new town and are reliant on him to go any where as I can't drive it's driving me insane I can feel myself sinking deeper and when I talk to him about it he does not listen sad

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LineyReborn · 20/09/2015 14:30

Hi, OP. I saw you post in Step-Parenting and I am glad you have posted here because this is really a problem you have with your husband and your relationship.

Your husband doesn't seem to value you at at all. I think you need to plan to leave with your DD. Do you have any support from family and friends you can call on?

Cabrinha · 20/09/2015 15:06

Sounds like a good thing he changed his mind (or lied) about having a baby. This way, you don't have a permanent tie with him. He sounds like an arsehole. What's stopping you dumping him?

daisychain01 · 20/09/2015 15:19

If you have your own source of income, why not learn to drive. Become independent

Why do you have to ask his permission to give your DD an allowance if you're working And bringing home income to the marital pot? Sorry I don't get why you aren't taking charge of decisions like this that are not his business. she is your DD.

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