Youngest Doesn't Want to Spend Time with Father

[hazel1910]

My ex (the Dementor) walked out on me and my 2 kids about a month ago.
My 14yr old is happy to spend time with "knob head" of a father. My 11yr old is just not that bothered about seeing him much at all.
Should I force him to see him or just let him decide when the time is right?
Their "father" has said that he wants to see them on Christmas day for a couple of hours and take them to their step-sisters, again the youngest doesn't want to go.
I don't want to start another argument with their "father" over access, but if it is in the better interest of my children I will.
What should I do?

It's early days and a lot may change by Christmas.

Your 14yo is old enough to decide for himself whether or not he wishes to see his df and your 11yo's wishes would be taken into account by a court of law, although this is not to say that contact with his df wouldn't be ordered.

Talk to your ex and stress the importance of him not insisting that either of the dc spend time with him until they have had time to come to terms with his absence from their home as forcing them in the short term may adversely affect their long term relationships with him.