How to give someone space

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My 'best friend' and I have been going through a period of falling out over fairly trivial things, I think because we have both had some stressful times recently. I tend to be of the 'everyone's doing their best' attitude and quickly forgive, whereas she tends to hold on to things for longer and needs space to forget, which i often don't give. I'm quite insecure and sometimes worry that if I'm not in contact with someone they will just forget about me.

About 10 days ago we had a discussion about how she needed some space and since then I've avoided contacting her and she hadn't been in touch with me. Usually we would text / speak every two or 3 days and this morning i really want to text her to see how she's doing, she had some fairly big work stuff going on, and just to check she's ok. How am I supposed to know when she's had enough space, or do i just have to sit back and wait for her to contact me?

I know it's really really hard but I'm afraid yes, you have to wait until she contacts you if she asks for space. That said though, unless you have done something to upset her, this sounds a bit of a one way friendship. I would be just step right back, see if she makes any effort. If not, consider the friendship has run its course and move on.

Send the text. Just say "I know you had some major work on and I just wanted to if it went ok".

If she texts back maybe she has had enough space if no text then she needs more time. Tbh you sound more invested in this friendship than her so you will always end up feeling like you are putting all the effort in. If your friendship is worth that to you then carry on however I would weigh up what YOU are getting out of it.

I wouldn't give her space.. I would dump her completely.

Your friendship sounds unhealthy. If I was dithering over sending a text to a friend the way you are I really would think it has run its course.

Yes you must wait it out. Don't do all the running. Don't try to force her into contact with you.
To be honest I don't know if this friendship is very good for you. It's one of two things; either you are too intense or your friendship is very one sided. Either way it doesn't seem to be functioning particularly well.