How to deal with friend who always says everything with a sting, or should I just dump her?

[LocketLou]

She can never say anything nice. She has a bit of a silly, ditsy air about her so comes across as being all nice and fluffy but then says some horrible things.

Today I had my hair cut and coloured and then bumped into her on the school run. Her comment today was "Your hair looks nice, it's good to see all those dry split ends gone"

Another recent comment from her was, one morning on the school run "Oh it's nice to see you in something decent for once". I think I always look decent and take time and trouble to decide what to wear each day.

She's just being a bitch isn't she??

She is. Don't give her any more of your time.

I had a "friend" like this. Always backhanded compliments. I ditched him.

Get rid.

I work with someone like this. She says totally evil stuff in a cutesy way.
Today she said of someone who's meant to be her friend, "oh I do love xxx, she makes me feel so intelligent"

She's a bloody witch.

Reply in a fake enthusiastic tone "That was almost a compliment for a change, but you managed to sneak an insult in in the nick of time. Well done you."

Either a bitch or completely socially inept.

Call her on it.

Every time.

Do it with a smile and a head tilt if you like but don't let these 'little jokes' pass.

She will tell you 'I was just joking' to which you say 'yes but then it should have been funny sweetie'

BlackAmericanoNoSugar

Dump her! Life is too short to put up with sugar-coated insults from a "friend"

I had to work with someone like this, 'butter wouldn't melt' image, but in fact an arrogant little bitch who specialised in snarky, nasty & hurtful comments eg: 'I'm not as good as you at bullshitting' when I'd completed a complex Department Development Plan & saved her a load of work. Although I'm normally resilient, she aggravated me immensely & I hated working with her, was overjoyed when she announced she was leaving.

You could do without her !

Distance yourself. Slowly but surely.

You could always say "oh blah-de-fucking-blah" next time she backhands, like I did. Cuts the 'friendship' up quicker

There is nothing 'nice and fluffy' about this one. She isn't even passive aggressive - just a bitch!

Bin her

Ditch her, and in the meantime cultivate a blank look, and ask her to repeat herself, EVERY time, while you maintain a distracted air, and manage not to hear her. I detest people like her.

Talk back with a load of utter, nonsensical bollocks, so after she says the nasty thing come out with 'oh yeah and tomorrow I'm painting my hippo green at a party in Sweden with Beanie babies on the menu' just make her go 'eh' and she might leave you alone. You don't have to do this but this is what I'd do myself.

I haven't come across this myself but I once had a friend who liked to tell me how boring I was for eating a packed lunch at work instead of spending £5 on canteen food, when she called me boring I'd say 'I'm stupid as well, why did you miss that out'.

I'm going to avoid her in future as much as possible.

We have quite a few mutual friends who share the "Haha bless her isn't she scatty?" mindset about her. Pisses me right off.

She makes comments to others but for some reason really zones in on me to make them.

A confident, well-balanced person would not behave like that. She's jealous of you, so pity her.

I had this exact same problem and she also was known as a bit ditzy! so started doing the same back in a very obvious way. She cottoned on and stopped. Quite sad really because when she said she realised what I was doing she said it was because she was jealous of my life no idea why! and saying them comments made her feel better! She did apologise and I've made more effort to support her more knowing how unhappy she is. I would at least try and talk it through before cutting her out but if it carries on the Cya later! It's damaging to have somebody constantly picking you apart.

Well the socially inept would be equally tactless with everyone so she clearly is just a b*tch. Guess she feels threatened or jealous of you. Her problem not yours!

Locket

Are you sure your friends didn't say 'Haha, bless her isn't she catty'?

reply in kind and try and make your remarks sharper than her's, use her for target practise