Frustrated and annoyed

[100thattemptatausername]

I broke up with my ex over a month ago we haven't spoken since and it's been good. I'm getting to know a new man and not having to feel like I'm waiting for my ex to love me as I wanted him to has been the best.
Yesterday ex text me out of the blue we haven't seen each other or spoken since the break up because of I don't trust him anymore. I text back we had a small conversation and that was it. Tonight I text him he text back really quickly I replied and nothing this was over an hour ago and I see hes been online on whatsapp.
How can I have done this again? I clearly still have feelings for him which is unfair to the new guy and he clearly hasn't changed. Why am I expecting him to be different this is not what I thought would happen but I just want him to love me.
I'm so annoyed with myself! Wtaf? Anyone here able to talk some sense into me because of now I'm planning on not texting him for a couple of days then texting him and so on until he's hooked? Who the fuck does that?

Please just let it go. Let it go.

Don't go backwards, move forwards otherwise accept the fact that you are contributing to your own misery.

You don't trust him. You said it yourself. Sounds like you've been strong and in a happy place since the break up. Now he's texted you & is fucking with your head. Delete and block. Move onwards and upwards. Keep going.

Instead of thinking you have to reply to the message immediately, put the phone down and go off and do something else.

Doesn't matter what it is, make a cup of tea, watch a film, do some work, whatever. This will give you time to think and not do a knee-jerk response.

Give it long enough and you will realise you don't feel the need to reply.

Let it go and let the new man go. Four weeks on you need to be looking at yourself not a new relationship

You're not hooking him; he's hooking you and if you don't cut the line he'll reel you in until you jump back into his frying pan.

It's your choice. Believe the lies and blandishments of your ex and settle for a substandard relationship with a man who doesn't give a toss about you make you feel loved, or block/cease all contact with him and start experiencing the joys of relationships where your feelings are fully reciprocated. .

What goddess said. You've not 'hooking' him, he's 'hooking' you. And he knew he'd got you when you texted him tonight. He knew what he was doing when he replied straight away and then when he didn't reply to your response. Nd he knew you'd seen he was online.

He hasn't changed. He didn't love you when you were together, he doesn't love you know.

And leave this new man alone. Sort yourself out. You don't need to be in a relationship, you know.

You don't need your ex, he's a waste of your time. And a new man already who's getting sucked into the vortex that is your unfinished business? You don't have to have a boyfriend you know. You're clearly not ready for another one yet.
A relationship is not the only thing that validates you as a person.

You're all right of course I'm going to let the new man go I realised I had to do that when I reacted to the ex like this the ex can go jump and I'm going to work on me

How are you going to "work" on you? Do you have an actual plan?

I don't have a plan I used to work out maybe start with that and figure out how to be single and enjoy it I kept my friends close when I was with him I've never been a girl to stop seeing friends for a man so that doesn't need much work

Good luck with making these positive changes OP. Sounds like you have some good friends & are motivated to focus on YOU