One night stand

[Shippy28]

I was snooping on my partner's iPad and in his Facebook messages which date back to 2008, I found out that he had a one night stand 6 years (unprotected) just before conceiving our first son ( we have 2 now 5 and 7 months). I am going crazy thinking this could be a habit because this is a man with HISTORY. He's had the affair, still talks to exes but denies, very sociable and very friendly to women, the list goes on. He's very protective of his phone and refuses to give out his password which is what makes me suspicious hence the snooping. I'm going crazy in my head.

You've got reason to.

I agree, you have every reason to worry.

I don't believe that you are likely to find his only affair, particularly if it was six years ago, particularly if he's secretive with his phone now.

He's had the affair, still talks to exes but denies, very sociable and very friendly to women, the list goes on

Why are you going crazy OP? He's cheated on you, disrespected you, lied to you, you keep taking him back and by doing so reinforcing the message that "it's ok, I'm a doormat, I will keep taking you back" so hence he continues.

He's doing 'nothing' wrong, he's shown you his true colours, you chose to ignore him, so you are the one that needs to do something about you being unhappy and by that I don't mean snoop, or try to gathering more evidence.....My advice, if you want to stop going crazy, leave him to it, in other words LTB!

He has the history and you still took him back. Do you really think he changed?

So what do you want to do? You've had two children with this unfaithful man.

The one night stand matters in so far as you need to get yourself to an STI clinic asap. It's otherwise a red herring, he has already had an affair, still talks to exes and lies about it.

In his mind he's got it exactly how he wants it. He's treated you horrendously yet you still give him chance after chance. The snooping leads to madness, the trust is already gone and he has zero respect for you. It's either a life like this forever or you get out. He won't change.