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My friend found my girlfriend on Plenty of Fish this morning!?

21 replies

Arsenal123 · 17/09/2015 12:29

I'm a guy and a friend found my girlfriend on POF this morning. I knew she was on there a while back and you can still see her old dormant profile. However, there is now a new active profile on there which says it was online today. This profile has updated pictures and contains information that only someone very close to her would know - like her favourite place is the zoo, star sign, birth year in the username, etc.

I am absolutely gutted. Could it be a fake profile? I've asked her and she says she knows nothing about it. The pics are on her FB so it could have been created by an evil friend or whatever but my gut feeling is that it's bad news. There have been a few red flags with her hiding her phone/turning off alerts from certain people but I figured it was just because she didn't want to be interrupted when we were together. She has also told a few fibs for no reason (she told me she was nursing a hangover when she was out test driving a car). I've never snooped on her or questioned her but I'll admit I have been a bit worried when these things have come up.

What would you do/think?

OP posts:

Hurr1cane · 17/09/2015 12:31

I'd leave. With both things together it sounds bad

Scobberlotcher · 17/09/2015 12:33

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ToGoBoldly · 17/09/2015 12:41

I very much doubt it's a fake profile, the chances of that are slim to none.

I'd keep your dignity and drop her, if I were you. Sorry

irie · 17/09/2015 12:43

If it was a fake profile it would only have her pics not all her info - they'd just make up random info/put theirs surely? Sorry OP but I'd end it

hellsbellsmelons · 17/09/2015 12:46

I would think she was on POF
I would then dump her not just for that but for all the other red flags you are seeing.
It's really not worth it.
How long have you been together?

KinkyAfro · 17/09/2015 12:48

How long have you been together?

Alfieisnoisy · 17/09/2015 12:53

Hate to say this but I think she's looking around.

Sorry as you won't want to hear that but there are other red flags there too.

I know it's horrible but I think you have to end this relationship now. You deserve better than this.

for you. It's a horrible situation to be in x

ThisIsStillFolkGirl · 17/09/2015 12:58

Dump her. You deserve better x

Jackie0 · 17/09/2015 12:59

She is about to end the relationship , I'm so sorry.

ToGoBoldly · 17/09/2015 13:04

Not if you end it first, OP. You will feel better if you don't wait for her to trample on your feelings like that.

ChickenTikkaMassala · 17/09/2015 13:08

Drop her like a hot potato.

spatchcock · 17/09/2015 13:11

How did she react when you told her? If it was someone up to no good putting my Facebook pics online I would freak! But as a pp said, it's unlikely someone other than her has been using her original account.

Sorry OP, it doesn't look good.

Justaboy · 17/09/2015 13:16

Well get a mate to follow her ad up you'll know for certain then.

Perhaps he might take her for a drink somewhere and you could just pop by;!.

Then realise what a bitch she is and she wasn't worthy of you. That's how I'd see it!. Much better to know that now than a while down the line of life.

Amazemedontbeacunt · 17/09/2015 13:19

It could be a fake profile but combined with her telling 'a few fibs' it doesn't look good does it. You'll never be able to trust her so the relationship will never be a good one for you.

WhoTheFIsJeff · 17/09/2015 13:22

She on POF, she hiding her phone. She's either cheating on you, looking to, or wants out of the relationship.

molyholy · 17/09/2015 13:36

She is keeping you dangling until someone she deems as 'better' comes along. Then she will dump you. I would get in there first as PPs have said.

TokenGinger · 17/09/2015 15:21

Somebody made a very good point earlier up the thread - if it was a fake profile, somebody would jus steal her pictures, not all of her personal info. They'd be using her pictures just as a mask, not to actually pretend to be your girlfriend.

TripTrapTripTrapOverTheBridge · 17/09/2015 15:39

Ok,she's on POF. First things first, why were you searching on POF when you found her?

TripTrapTripTrapOverTheBridge · 17/09/2015 15:40

Apologies, you said a friend found it not yourself

In that case, I would honestly assume the worst. She's either keeping her options open or is cheating.

borisgudanov · 17/09/2015 16:18

She's up to no good and the story about its being a fake profile is a crock of shite.

She will eventually learn that yhe grass isn't greener. LTB.

goddessofsmallthings · 17/09/2015 17:51

Dump your current gf from a great height - and buy your friend a drink for saving you from being made a complete fool of by an unscrupulous woman who lies to your face while actively seeking liaisons with other men behind your back.

I also suggest you also get yourself checked out for stis at your nearest GUM clinic as there's no reason to suppose the liar hasn't been having sex with other men while she's been in a relationship with you.

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