Talking to me through facebook posts

[ProfesserPlum]

Boyfriend dumped me 4 months ago - but is now putting photos up on facebook that are relevent only to me. EG photos of his newly decorated bathroom...objects in photos that I wanted to have...I didnt want to see them but face book is like pandoras box isnt it?? He knows I will see these, what do you think he's trying to do??

Just feeling sad thats all

I don't understand why you wouldn't block or at least unfriend?

Unfollow.

BLOCK

You'll be pleased you did

I guess Im being silly. Sorry, just felt sad thats all.

PP

He might well be talking to you and it might well be a sign he is missing you sweetheart but the best way to find out is to block him because if he does want you back, he will call. Getting him to miss you is the best way to do that.

If he doesn#t want you back, blocking is also best. It's a win win and takes away the headspace he has and you'll see....without his FB posts he wil drift out of your mind.

That was a bit unsympathetic in tone brokehearted...how do you know the motivation of this man's FB posts? And how is telling her he can post what he likes helpful?

You're not being silly. Breaking up is horrible. You'll be hurting loads right now. He might be posting these things for you to see, he might not. You can take control though by blocking him (or unfollow for less dramaz...myself I like a good flounce so I'd block)

One way or another you need to stop being able to see his posts. Then reward yourself with and

Thank you everyone, I probably eserved/needed those answers!! The bathroom is significant because we planned it together, we demolished it together, we chose paint and fixings together. He dumped me and now when its finished, he is putting it on FB to let me see how it looks without actually telling me its finished. I wouldn't want him back even if he crawled on broken glass to ask me back. I never go back. It just made me sad and I wanted someone elses view - I've been out and now I'm over it.

I wouldn't want him back even if he crawled on broken glass to ask me back

very happy to hear you say this. You will get through this.

You have to block him - this is doing you no good, as you realise. Whatever his agenda, or whether or not he even has an agenda, this isn't helping you move on.

I'm not interested in his bathroom! And he chose a horrible paint colour - old lady peach - that will impress the ladies!

Ha ha where do you even find old lady peach these days. Bit late to tell you this, but LTB.

Peach = evil colour

The old adage "out of sight, out of mind" is true. Every part of you is screaming to analyse and look at everything he does but you're putting him right in your site.

As pp said, your best bet is to take control back and silence him. Unfollowing is great if you have the will power to not go to his page, but if you're anything like me then a block is better.

Hurts at first but gets much better very quickly.

So easy to say, so hard to do...but you can do it and we have all been there (or at least I have) and know how you feel.

Being dumped is awful.

Whoever Mr Right is, he probably won't dump you. I always remind myself of that!