NARC children - anyone got one, know one, was sibling of one....?

[mulranna]

Just interested what were/are their behaviours? Can early intervention turn them around?

• read loads about struggles with NARC adults - but were they born that way - or only become NARC as an adult? Is it hereditary ?

Just a question. Can narcs be sort of 'unsociable' or quiet even? (even when you know they are craving attention?)

One of the in-laws. I firmly believe her parents made her that way, though neither parent is actually a narc.She was the centre of their lives and 'groomed for stardom' at an early age. In a way, it made it worse that she was very beautiful.

Now the stardom didn't materialise and the beauty is mostly gone she is worse than ever. Nothing to be done but avoid her. I feel sorry for her, but only from a distance.

Dh's sister almost definitely. Played mind games with dh who was younger. Pretty sure MIL was narc too.
Even now and we are NC she tells everyone dh is some sort of criminal or substance abuser. She bases this on him once getting a clip round the ear from the local Bobby for throwing stones at a lamp post to smash the bulb and his smoking and getting drunk as a teen. That dh is 55 has no criminal record, doesn't smoke or drink (and she knows all this) doesn't seem to enter her tiny mind in her desire to rubbish him.
She also tried to challenge FIL's will on he grounds that dh must have coerced him into his inheritance on the grounds that FIL never approved of dh's antics as a teen. Again it didn't enter her tiny mind that dh and FIL had a close and loving relationship for many years (more than 30) after his teenage idiocy.
We cut all contact when it became obvious that she was trying the same tricks with our dc considering them hooligans even as tots. We last saw her at FILs funeral with her ds who is so socially inadequate most likely because she has never allowed him to have any time out of her control and at 27 with no life outside of her it's unlikely he will ever escape.

My childhood best friend may have been a narcissist. I have wondered if she might be a sociopath before too.
I could tell you about her...in fact I started, but I quickly realised it wouldn't be a brief post.
Words I would use to describe her are:

Popular - though I'm not sure why.
Queen bee - was definitely the head of our little gang of 4.
Manipulative - got people to fall out with other people, spread rumours, shit stirred, told lies, singled people out to be sent to Coventry by the whole class etc.
Violent - hit other children often. Enjoyed fighting. Even soundly battered me a couple of times, for no reason.
Clever - academically high achieving with little effort.
Controlling - had to be top dog and in charge of proceedings at all times.
Mean - namecalling, the humiliation of others, bullying...she loved it all.
Vindictive - woe betide the child daft enough to oppose her in any way.
Unfeeling - had zero empathy to speak of. Felt no remorse for being nasty or hurtful in all the years I knew her.

Why the fuck was I friends with such a creature you might ask? Well, I was a pudgy, bookish girl who didn't fit in, but who had a great line in comebacks and was a rebel. She took a liking to me...and it was far better to have her on side than target me, which she most certainly would have done if I had rebuffed her. Frankly, I spent six years of my childhood being scared of my own best friend.
I didn't shake her off until secondary school where we both made more suitable friends elsewhere and my family moved again to a neighbouring town so I rarely saw her any more. Was an absolute relief.