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Separating life stress and relationship problems WWYD

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whatisforteamum · 14/09/2015 21:14

For yrs ive juggled relationship stress that i cant change by working.Tbh it has worked well.Things got worse when dh had heart attack 2 yrs ago and my company changed hands making the work harder and different shift patterns,I decided this yr after 11 yrs to leave for less hrs as i kept being given twce my contracted ones.Also i felt a bit out of the loop as df has been v ill and i had stayed incase he passed away hoping pple would see my excellent track record of hardly any absences and be supportive and the midnight ends were getting too much,
the week i gave notice my car was hit by a lorry and will now be written off.Days later our ds wrote a letter (a lovely one ) explaining that he is gay and i has suspected so it wasnt a huge shock to be but was to dh.Also our dd got a job that we have to drop her at until she can drive,While DF admitted to losing 2 stone and sleeping alot he has terminal cancer and has bad periods of health.
Dh has been so angry this w end.9He has been angry since his health scare and bad tempered.Sulking about the chores as weve always shared however dd and i weere both at our new job coping with odd work hrs.Ds has homework from 6 th form.My new work has given me more hrs than agreed and i spent 3 hrs on health and hygiene tests.
i know some settling into a new routine is to be expected i just feel lost.Dh did do the chores and cooked a lovely tea.i just wish he was willingly helping,He said tonight if i dont like it we can split up .this had crossed my mind though i do have alot of stress already.WWYD.

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pocketsaviour · 14/09/2015 21:35

Leave him.

Come on. You've known your marriage was over years ago. If you want to wait until things are sadly at an end with your DF, that's understandable. But start making some sort of timeline in your head, because otherwise you're still going to be posting in 2 years time, and all the problems are still going to be there.

whatisforteamum · 14/09/2015 21:42

i kind of was pocket saviour now i cant help thinking it is too much life stress.The whole job change is doing my head in let alone tiptoeing around everyone.Did you change your whole life in one go may i ask ?

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whatisforteamum · 15/09/2015 09:27

Did anyone change their whole life in one go ?

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