I think from now on I'm going to be a self centred bitch who doesn't care about others

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As it seems that those types of people just thrive!

I am sick of treating people decently, being kind, speaking to people nicely and just having people treat me like shit in return.

Some friends and I have a FB group, I am normally extremely supportive on there if anyone is low or has problems. Today I have posted something about myself, and every single person on the group has seen it but only one person has replied a very abrupt 'oh dear'. Everyone else gets awww sweetie hope you are ok, sending lots of love/fluffy bunnies/flowers and hearts.

Friends just seem to take, take take from me, no one ever listens to me or gives a shit about me, I am expected to just listen to them all the time and I never get treated with any respect.

Sick of it.

i can see where you're coming from. life can be such a cunt but please don't change your lovely nature.
karma often catches up with people who are bitches/bastards at some point, before they pop their clogs.

3 examples, off the top of my head:

• a man i know who was like a wild dog when he was at school, cheated on his wife numerous times, blew about £4 million. now very, very ill and incapacitated in his mid 70s.

• a rich woman i know who was a total cunt at school finally met her match and married the biggest douchebag in the country. it even shows in her face. she's in her 40s and really had too much sun when she lived in australia. her complexion is like a cats's dirty arsehole and she has teeth that would make satan blush. no one likes her, despite all her money.

• another man i knew who worked in an abattoir was unspeakably cruel to the animals there. he ended up falling into a vat of boiling animal fat. very gruesome.

you get back what you put out there.

I feel exactly the same....I have decided that from now on I will "build my own house before I start to give bricks to help others build theirs" when I'm whole again I will return to giving of myself only what I know I can afford to without expecting anything in return.

I've always given too much of myself and left myself drained. Many people do it then feel let down when others do not do what we'd do for them.

You are who you are, I'd say don't change however guard yourself from those who would drain you or you won't have anything left for yourself.

And of course some for you

55a i know. i'm awful really.
she is such a horrible person, though. just such an evil cunt. her mother and aunt are the very same.

Don't resolve to be a horrible person, resolve to rid your life of horrible people. I did this, you're better off being a bit lonely than spending your energies on people who don't care for you too much.

Why are you seeking to elicit sympathy or approbation from others on a social media site?

If you're concerned you're not getting the recognition you believe you deserve in response to your FB post, I suggest you follow up with "C'mon people, I'm struggling here" or similar

It seems to me that you're martyring yourself for no good cause and you may want to take some time to work out why you're engaging in behaviour which makes unsatisfactory outcomes self-perpetuating.

Maybe they don't know what to say?
Don't presume they have actually seen it. It may show up on their page bit it doesn't mean they have actually seen it, AFAIK.

I know how you feel. I've had a bit of a run of that sort of thing recently. I have dropped everything for friends in need and when I've needed them get bugger all in return.
In a moment of hurt I decided the same as you but when I had calmed I realised I couldn't stop being me so I did what Boldly said and rid myself of the people. It was hard and one in particular felt like I'd lost a family member but I know the situation wasn't good for me and in the end was a relief. I have also found that people I didn't know that well before arr actually better friends and more reliable than the couple I have cut out I am making new friendships with people on a more even level now and it feels like a weight has been lifted.

I'm crying with laughter that a post from someone with unsupportive friends moved so quickly to a man boiling to death (?) in a vat of animal fat!!!

OP, you have to be true to yourself. I give more than I get, I think - though only just. But... I'm happy with who I am. Withdraw a bit if the balance is wrong, but don't beat yourself up for being the person you want to be, in the past.

What goddess said. Why are you martyring yourself running after people you say 'treat you like shit'? And why do you feel that beginning to copy their behaviour will make any difference? Ask yourself what there is for you in the current dynamic.

Exactly, bin off the horrible people. Don't become horrible.

A complexion like a cats dirty arsehole.
I'll be using that at the earliest opportunity.

I can relate.

Unfortunately I come across as strong, capable, matter of fact and in control when I'm not.

People don't think I need anything except to rant!

I'm learning to say what I need and people are then more as I'd like.

I'm also learning to then bin those who I've felt obligated to but still don't step up and are just on the take. There aren't many of those though, it's just mostly how I come across that means I dont attract the reactions that others do.

I have been noticing recently that I have been giving way way more than I get. One person in particular has really gone down in my estimations, and I am quietly devastated about that friendship. Its like a mask has slipped and I can see how self absorbed and mean she is. :(

I have always been a generous person, with time and money and concern. I briefly thought of withdrawing completely, changing myself, but then I realised I didn't want to become the same as all the takers. I like that I am generous and caring. So I have vowed to keep a check on it, and only put myself out when it won't damage me emotionally.