I've recently moved back to be local to my family, and since I did have just felt really down when in contact with my family or spending time with them.
My Dad, 64, is quite sexist. He thinks all books by women are not worth reading, he thinks fat women are disgusting (I am a size 14 - 16 and get the feeling he includes me on that list) and I have never really heard him say anything positive about a woman that ws not related to her tits or her being beautiful. He thinks housework is for women etc.
My Mum is 61 and stunningly beautiful. She looks about 40, is very slim and she has always been a SAHM and pushed her sexist views subtly onto me also. Like she has a go at me because I don't regularly offer DS (12) drinks and think he should go and get one himself. She is always maing comments about how my DS is not lookked after the way we were or whatever. I work and am a single Mum and my son is really well cared for by I do expect him to bring his plates to the kitchen and get himself a drink.
My brother 2 is married to a girl from overseas and a subservient culture and he belives women should hold their tongue around men. He has also made comments that he finds my weight gross. He says only skinny women are attractive and finds single Mum's to be "losers".
My brother 1 is twice divorced, and also only dates skinny and beautiful women. He has two children and so when his kids and my DS are at my prents house for sunday lunch I am expected to look after his kids also. I am also told by Mum to "get your brother a drink" while he lasy on the sofa. If the kids are being naughty (even his kids) she shouts at me.
Brother 1 is also extremely shady. Twice divorced. Banned from driving three times for alcohol and now lost his licence. 2 businesses went bankrupt. Didn't see his kids for two years. Had affairs on both wives. Openly sleeps with hookers -his last ex wife took the children to FIND him at the brothel and he also slept with my other brothers long term girlfriend. In the end he was so abusive to his last wife that she took off and left him with the children and is now being treated for a total breakdown - making him essentailly a single father by default.
And yet all my parents do is go on about how fucking wonderful he is. "Isn't he a wonderful father", "isn't he a wonderful businessman", "he stayed with so and so and they said what a wonderful house guest he is".
I, by contrast, have never had an affair, always done very well with my job, always supported myself and DS, always been a really devoted Mum and yet they never say a fucking word nice about me.
So today I was sitting there and brother 1 who is 44, rich (through shady means), fat bald, ugly and wears his trousers hanging round his arse and he is on POF looking at girls to date. They are all 25 and gorgeous.
So I said to him I thought he should look more around his own age instead of keep bringing these Polish and Russian whores into his life because he has kids to think about.
He said that he wanted a woman under 30 because any older was ugly (I am 38)
He said he wanted a woman who was a sixe 10 or less because he had a "weight limit" and anything else made him want to vomit (I am a 14 - 16)
He said he had no interest in personality, and only wanted good looks and preferred a woman who wanted him for his money so she would stay at home and do the laundry.
I told him that making those decisions when single was fine, but what abut his children.
Brother 2 and Dad totally agree with him and tell me I am basically a tree hugger and no man wants an ugly old fat woman and that looks in the number one most important quality in a woman.
He then tells my Mum I am picking on him, and she turns around and says to me she agrees with him too and why should he have someone ugly. It;s almost like she doesn't care at all about her Granchildren who have already been through so much with all the mental 25 year olds he shags (the last one was a cocaine addict who hit him and I had to go round in the middle of the night to pull her off him and phone police).
Then Mum shouts at me to control the children and tells me I am a drama queen when I got upset.
Is any of this normal? I feel like they are just all so shallow and sexist and I am made to feel like I am the one with a problem?
My brothers openly discuss women and their tits and shagging prostitutes and they are so demeaning to women it makes me sick.