Usually post elsewhere so that it goes, but again am confused. Discussion today, somedays we seem to get on fine. I had said I was interested in the discussion but not in the construction of the argument, it's something I feel strongly about as he uses the construction of an argument against me.
Anyway, he was being a wee bit patronising and I wasn't too amused as he'd called me thick the other day (no, not outright, nor using that terminology). However, dd has a big day tomorrow and I didn't want a row, so teased him about bullshit and calling me thick. It really was a tease. This lead to him going upstairs, despite my apologies, because I apparently constantly put him down, bad mouth him to the kids, tell people he is ill etc. I have no idea where this has come from. I think it's another way of controlling me, but am at a loss as to how this new game works.
I know I don't like it. I'm not sure what I'm apologising for, although apparently he doesn't see it as teasing but as insulting. Okay, fair enough. I apologised, but he doesn't want that, he wants me to stop doing it. So, I can never tease? I always said he'd get me to the point where I thought I was going mad. I think he's almost there. I'm scared.
Background: His behaviour was so abominable last year and early this year that I was taking 18 year olds to their boyfriends houses to get them out of the way. He can be abusive but somehow doesn't see it. He is waited on hand and foot and gets everything he wants. He does have mental health and disability issues. One of his daughters thinks that it's sad that at 18 their boyfriends treat them better than their dad treats their mother.
I keep trying to make it work. I have made it work for over twenty years. I'm tired.