Is my Mum Narcissistic?

[Aramynta]

I don't really know.

A few of you might have caught my thread before it was deleted. A brief run down is that I was sexually assaulted by my alcoholic mothers husband when they invited themselves to stay. It linked to another thread about their whole stay which was, in a word, catastrophic.

I have been thinking about her and her behaviour a lot. They seem to match up with things people say on other threads about the behaviour of Narcissists in their lives.

Can anyone give me a few examples? I really don't know if she is, or if she is just emotionally self centred.

Does your mother have one or more 'favourites' among your siblings and then another sibling who she constantly scapegoats? Does she pit the different siblings against one another and encourage conflict? Does she appear more loving towards her sons, if she has any, than towards her daughter(s)? Does she consider herself very beautiful? Does she think the whole world revolves around her? Does she fly into rages?

I'd be wary of labels - they are not always helpful.

I haven't read your other thread but I understand that it is not uncommon for the partners of abusers to deny that their partner has done anything wrong, even where their own children are concerned. Alcoholism will also have a huge impact on someone's ability to react adequately and appropriately.

Al Anon might be a good place to start for some information/support.