Just over 72 hours til MIL arrives and already friends are starting to discount us!

[BaileysMilkshake]

My MIL has agreed to come stay with us while we await the borth of DC2 so I can go in to hospital happy in the knowledge that DD can stay in her own home, with her own routine rathr than be farmed out to friends and have to adapt to their routines or mis pre-school etc.

I grateful to MIL for agreeing to come stay. But DH and I are dreading the loss of privacy, we just realised last weekend was our last with just him and me and DD in the house, next it's MIL and then baby.

Also MIL will constantly compare our lives to that of my BIL and SIL who's house she is round daily.

I have found out from other family members that MIL has always favoured BIL over my DH - I love my DH very much so this makes me very angry. And have recently seen the same behaviour come out in favour of BIL's children against mine.

I have posted about her before, but tonight a couple of my friends wthdrawn invites etc for things we had planned knowing my MIL will be with us. And because of MIL wanting to spend Chrismas Day with BIL and Boxing Day with us, my DD has also missed out on seeing the Panto on Boxing Day with her GodMother. And I know if MIL gets up my nose too much while here I feel like I could end up telling her all this just to provoke a reaction.

Why does your dd have to miss a panto? Can't she go along anyway? Surely she will see lots of her grandma when she looks after her without her having to miss a panto?

It's only grandma coming to look after her from Saturday. Boxing Day will be grandma, grandad, grt granddad and grt grandma (all bought by car by FIL). And they have a 2 hour drive to and from our home - we have no room to put them up, so by her going to the Panto in the afternoon would mean she doesnt get to say goodbye etc. part of me thought to hell with that let her go - but the trouble it would cause in the family - leading to DH and I being treated even less favorably in the future, which in turn means DD receiveing this treatment just is'nt worth it. plus dont want to deprive the grt grandparents who are lovely and never cause any problems - there one joy in life is the children.

hmm, its a tough one, could you ask if your mil will come to you on christmas day instead? I'm guessing not. How about having them on New years eve, explain about the panto and hopefully she'll understand. If not, make your own. Make all family dress up and perform cinderella, with your MIL as the stepmother.