What do I do?

[DontMindMe]

I have been asked out on a shopping trip by a man who is a friend I have known for a couple of years. We don't often see another but have arranged a trip out to look at antiques - its his thing for enjoyment. He asked me along, and I wanted to go, but I think he wants it to be a bit more. I would like a boyfriend but although I like him, I just don't fancy him. Can love grow?? I don't want to lead him on but I also like going out as friends. Why do men always getter wrong idea??

Your thoughts on this would be fantastic especially if you have been in this place like me!!

The first question is are you both "free" to have a relationship?

In my instance, my now DH started out as a friend. He eventually asked me out to dinner and I was completely Meh about it - I didn't see him like that at all and I didn't fancy him, but went out to dinner anyway. The date was a disaster, but his company wasn't too bad and he was a friend, so I agreed when he asked me out to the cinema a week or so later.

Suffice to say, as I really got to know him over a couple of months, I found myself falling in love with him.

What have you got to loose? At the very least you'll have a fun day out with a friend.

I have fallen in love with men I didn't feel attracted to initially, BUT not very often.
It is difficult, as unless you spell it out for him, he is bound to think that there is something there.
I would go and look antiques if you want to go. Be yourself and then if he makes advances, you can lay it out for him kindly.
He needs to give you time and go slowly. If he is not prepared to do this then ditch him.

Men don't always get the wrong idea. If you like antiquing and spending time with your friend then of course why not go! Perfectly possible for men and women to socialise together without bonking, y'know
If your spidey senses end up being correct then you should just be honest with him how you see him in a kind and straightforward way. Then it's up to him if he's ok with 'just' friendship.

Although if you're questioning "can love grow?" I'm wondering if you're doubting how you see him!

We are both free to date. I wish I fancied him because he would be great as a boyfriend! I don't want him to think I'm leading him on at all as I like his friendship

The trouble is, men always get the wrong idea with me. Don't get me wrong, I'm no stunner, I have a good personality and I get on well with everyone.