parents separating

[lounear35]

Any advice.... my parents are in their 60s and married 40 something yrs. Mum announced she is missing something and wants to leave . I'm gutted..... anyone any advice

Give them both the support they need. Sorry this is happening to you.

Of course you're gutted your parents are defeating and as much as you can rationalise in your mind that you want your mum to be happy you'll to some extent have childlike hurt and emotions.

So rationalise what's happening but expect to hurt and grieve too. It'll take a while to come to terms with but that doesn't make you selfish or a bad person, it's perfectly normal.

Be there for your parents but don't be afraid to call either of them in it if they are asking too much of you emotionally for them. That's ok. First and foremost although you are adult you are their child too so don't get drawn into a friendship role.

Lastly it won't be easy no matter how much you have a logical approach to wanting your mum to be happy.