Not sure if I want to resist him

[headiswrecked]

Hello...I've namechanged for this although I've never been a regular contributor, more like an extremely regular lurker...
I'm in a situation and I was hoping for opinions...I found a flirty chat on my guys phone with a woman he knew years ago...there was a short chat and then nothing more. I found it about 2 weeks after he sent it...that was 6 weeks ago. I told him it was over, not a chance I'd forgive him etc. He stayed away for 3 weeks but has been texting me since trying to reconcile. I've been missing him like mad and he's obviously furious at himself, full of declarations of love and apologies.
Question is why do people grovel and beg forgiveness after being caught out? Surely if they were messaging other people they feel something is amiss in their own relationship so would be quite happy for it to end and allow them to move on?
We've no kids together, we've been seeing eachother for over a year but not living together....very easy for him to cut loose if he wanted...why do you think he wants to reconcile?

I totally would have a problem with that message, I'd be seriously pissed off if my DP was messaging other women on FB and calling them sexy. Maybe I'm not as laid back as most of you but it would be the end for me.

Well sort of pocketsaviour yes, how you become resentful (?) for not having a dishwasher may well show a comparison to how you develop resentment when your child doesn't get an A grade, how you prepare your work less thoroughly because you are resentful that you are doing a colleague's work.

Small behaviour is the same as big behaviour, in many cases. We are usually quite consistent.

In this case, he though it was fiiiiiiine to trawl Fb 'for a chat', I'm sure he wouldn't be adverse to doing that in a bar, or when someone approached him.

Well we'll agree to disagree Lady; it sounds to me like one of those quotes which sound meaningful but are so vague that they either apply to everything or nothing.

But then I am known as a pedantic sort. (Although not about the washing up, haha!)

Some of these replies have made me laugh. Would love to see how you'd react if you found a msg from your partner/h to another girl saying hi sexy. OP I do not think you are overreacting one bit. If my other half ever did this, he'd be out on his ear too and we've been together nine years. It's still a year on. Find someone who would rather send hey sexy msgs to you! Xx you deserve better. Keep your resolve. There are men out there that don't do this x