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Marriage over

18 replies

Mabelface · 09/09/2015 22:47

19 years together gone. I'm just waiting to move out, limbo is hell. It's so hard to keep going. No one else involved, just the end of a long road.

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AnyFucker · 09/09/2015 22:55

That's a shame. But if it's done, it's done

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Mabelface · 09/09/2015 22:58

Thank you. Feeling very heart sore. It's very hard to envision single life right now. I just have to focus on my moving date. I need a full on bear hug.

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AnyFucker · 09/09/2015 22:59

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Mabelface · 09/09/2015 23:01

and crisps.

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LeonC · 09/09/2015 23:02

I give good hugs Lizzy. Here's one for you
((((((. )))))))

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Mabelface · 09/09/2015 23:03

I am feeling lonely. My husband is one of those who gives all encompassing, comforting hugs and I don't have that any more.

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Mabelface · 09/09/2015 23:06

Oh shit Leon, thank you, that made me cry. Thank you for caring, both. x

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PacificDogwood · 09/09/2015 23:07

Hug from me too.
I hear you.

Just because it may be the right thing to do does not make it easier, does it?
I hope this time next year your life will be rosy.

Verypissedoffwife · 09/09/2015 23:08

I'll give you a virtual hug (((((())))))) and a virtual

Olivepip59 · 09/09/2015 23:09

Is there something you used to live passionately before you were married? Could you take it up/do it/join one/spunk cash on it to remind you that there was, and will be again, life outside your marriage?

Are there DC?

I know it's shag-all help now, but there will honestly come a day when you wake up and it's not so awful.

LookAtMeGo · 09/09/2015 23:10

I never say 'hun' but I want to say it in this instance. Sorry hun. Really hope it goes smoothly for you. I've been there. It rocks you to the core of your being. It doesn't seem possible now, but one day you will feel like you again. And probably a better 'you' than you are now.

Verypissedoffwife · 09/09/2015 23:12

Do you have anyone around you at the moment? Kids /friends/family?

LookAtMeGo · 09/09/2015 23:13

A million better things happened to me after the split. And I didn't want the split. Fought it as hard as I could. My xh is a wonderful man and we're still on very good terms. Nobody else involved like you.

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Mabelface · 09/09/2015 23:13

1 grown and 3 older teens who are coping fine. Work helps right now as I've recently gone full time, it's the evenings when I go up to bed and right now he's at his mother's for a couple of days.

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Mabelface · 09/09/2015 23:15

Not going to lean on the kids. My big sister is coming to spend the day and night with me tomorrow. I miss him.

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PacificDogwood · 09/09/2015 23:16

You miss what you thought you had with him.
Sorry the reality did not live up to that

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Mabelface · 09/09/2015 23:21

We did have so much that was awesome, so sad it went. The split wasn't my choice, even though it is probably the right thing to do. I think he'll regret it, but I won't go back of be does.

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Olivepip59 · 10/09/2015 10:22

Not going to lean on the kids

Absolutely. I see so many mothers do this and it causes such damage and divided loyalties.

Hope you're feeling stronger.

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