Is anyone on OKCupid?

[Awholelottanosy]

I joined this recently and although there are a better class of men than POF, I'm getting messages from faraway places such as Dubai, Israel and the USA. Why do men do this, when you live literally thousands of miles away from them? Also, I'm getting the usual, why haven't you messaged me back messages and there isn't a block function and hiding doesn't seem to work as they still message me! Been getting messages from a German guy who describes himself as 'part of the white minority in Germany' and I really don't want to talk to him, anyone on this site who can tell me what to do or what your experiences have been like?

I have tried both, I think "better class of men than POF" is a level of optimism that will only leave you disappointed.

I came across losers on both, but met someone pretty nice on POF. If you're going to do online dating, keep your expectations low and your standards high. I don't think the website makes much difference, to be honest! The free ones have higher footfall so it inevitably feels like an onslaught of douche behaviour, but I think proportionally the loser:viable option ratio is the same

Also, what can I put on my profile to deter twats? I've already said UKIP supporters need not apply but maybe I should go the whole hog and say I'm a left wing feminist? Haha, I think that would open up a world of abuse, bloody tempted tho...

Nothing will deter the twats, as if they read the profiles! Just apply the "block" function liberally...

There IS a block function. I have taken great delight in using it many times.

I think it's easier to see the block button on the website rather than the app.

Thanks, I can't see the block button, just hide, what am I missing?

Can't remember exactly where it is. I've usually done it from a message - I think it's quite visible when they message you. One idiot sent me something saying "this is not a cut and paste job". I was a bit drunk, had a complete rant at him (so, so many cut and paste messages) and then blocked him. Great fun.

I can only see, reply, like or hide underneath someone's message!

There is a block function but i can only tell you where it is on the app. In the app,if you swipe to the right the block buttin comes up for a message, or a like or a view.

I have had success with OKC. Had a fling with one and am now in a serious relationship with DP who I met on there. In my experience, the percentage match thing really is quite accurate. So answer loads of questions and the matches will be better. Fling was 80% match and he was a really nice fwb for a while. DP was a 97% match and safe to say that has worked out and we are now 7 months in.

Good luck!

You do get quite a lot of messages from overseas but I just used to message back politely and say thanks but you are too far away.

Overseas - ignore. Don't even reply to them. They're not genuinely interested.

Twats won't be detered. Just ignore them. If you can't see hiw to block just ignore.

Many women make the mistake of thinking that all the men who contactthem are genuinely interested. But lots of the messages you get will be from men who have cut and paste their messages to hundreds of women whose profiles they haven't even read.

I used to ignore loads of messages/men.

If you open someone's message, in the bottom right hand side of the actual message are the options to either Block or Report.

Tell the losers to piss off, and be blunt with who you do want to talk to and who you don't, without being too rude of course, but you don't want to waste your time with these men that don't live in the same country as you so maybe add that but in nicer terms. Match.com I think might be a bit better, but men will be men and they just try their luck.

I used OK Cupid over three years of dating and loved it. Yes I got some messages from twats but I just ignored them. The key is to remember you're in charge, it's a bit like catalogue shopping, with an option to try before you buy. If you like the look of someone, message them and then maybe a date. Ignore the one's you don't, you're under no obligation.

As for messages from overseas I wouldn't bother most of the time, but as a 40 year old woman I was surprised to get a message from an 18 year old, disabled, cross-dressing guy from Nebraska. Romantically it was not going anywhere but we had some hysterical conversations and from time to time I still here from him!

Oh he wat gay as well.

*was

Ok so after getting a message today from a guy saying, can I piss on u? , I've changed to desktop site and finally there's a block button! Will be using that rather a lot methinks...Thanks for all the advice everyone, OLD seems to be full of twats whatever site you use!

I would reply "not from that distance" and block.

I blocked about 3 times as many men as I responded to!