DCs first trip without me.

[ThawingIceQueen]

New name due to app disappearing blah blah.

My husband and I split this year due to my uncovering cheating, lying, websites, meet ups, messaging, pictures - you get the idea. Me and the DDs are doing great, he gets on with his life, we get on with ours, we meet in the middle when it comes to days with their father. However, next weekend is a pre booked weekend away which of course I am no longer attending. This will be my first big, massively huge step of being without DDs for 3 days. Whilst I'm thoroughly looking forward to the peace and quiet (DDs are 7 and 5), I think this high may sink given that the weekend falls on my birthday. Urgh. So possibly a night out with the girls may come crashing down to me waking up alone with a phone call singing happy birthday.

Any advice oh wise ones as to how best to get through? Especially the last 24 hours which I think may be the trickiest, without resorting into a Bridget Jones style rendition of 'all by myself' and falling into a wine induced unconsciousness?

Yes! Make sure your house work is done and shopping ordered online in advance so you don't have that hanging over you. (Seriously I have read "clean the house thoroughly" as advice to others in this situation!)

Then Google what's on in your area. I know there are still some street/food/music festivals happening.

Travel to one of the big cities and go to a classical music concert/gig, out for dinner alone and book into a hotel overnight. Go to the theatre.

There are so many things you can do! Just make sure yyou make the most of it. Remember who you were before the girls came along and relive it. Or spend the weekend being who you'd be if you'd never had them.

Just enjoy it!

My first weekend alone was spent in my pjs with a bottle of wine, a takeaway, a book and peace and quiet.

It was great once, but never again!

Hi Thawing
Yes, make plans! Do stuff that's tricky to do when the kids are around. Treat yourself!
My dd is going away with her dad this weekend and so am I - to see a friend. I know I'll miss her loads and I still feel sad wheb she's away with her dad (this is about the 5th time) but it's healthy for the kids to bond with their dad & healthy for us to get some down time, right?
Have a great weekend

Oh you won't miss them forever. I love my children, but I know they arehappy and well cared for with their dad. It's fine to enjoy the time without them.

I look forward to seeing them when they get home, but I don't ever miss them.

Ah thank you all. I don't have a sense of dread, I am looking forward to being "me" for the weekend, I shall plan my time and enjoy the peace as they'll soon be back!

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