I've been going threw some mental health problems but my Dp has completed turned into someone I don't recognise in the past few months and it honestly has only been a few months.
We have 2 dc 1 has sn and 1 is a baby so I'm at home 24/7 and don't get much sleep, he works evenings (part time hours.
He refuses to help at night even when he's off.
He's started calling me names (I am stupidly letting these get to me) and says it's my fault, an example from today was I said dc1 couldn't get a toy and he called me a stupid bitch as I didn't have a valid reason for it, when I told him it wasn't fair to say that he says it's my fault I deserved it as I was acting like one.
He says I need to let him have a break but says I don't need one as I don't work, he will let me get a quick bath each night though but it's never really a proper break as the kids are normally running around.
If I try to cuddle him he says unless we are going to have sex then it's not fair as he cant control himself and he will try touching me until I've made it clear I said no.
He knows I was abused as a child and this is bringing a lot of things back to me right now.
He says he is depressed but won't do anything about it, I know he can be different nothing like this happened prior to 3 months ago I just don't know how to fix us when he's acting like this.
Is there anything I can do or have I let it slip to far away.
So far I've tried doing everything to make him happy ie not complaining, letting him have time away and having sex it's never good enough I really feel drained by it all.
I've also tried talking and saying we can work out a shedule so we both know what we should be doing and that we both get a break but he refused to engage saying it's easy for me staying at home.
Sorry for rambling i just need others thoughts on all this this.