When pity replaces desire & rage

[Rockaria]

My ex came round to see me last night, to drop off some bits & pieces. Was NC for 2 months after i broke it off in June.
I spent weeks frying over him, I was devastated because although i broke it off i did it because his behaviour had become erratic & scary. He has MH issues & i had done my best to support him but it was not enough. I have 2 dc of my own & he was taking up too much of my time & emotion & i just wasn't getting anywhere.
I missed him so much, tho i suspect i missed the company & chat rather than his behaviour & issues.
Last night he looked so sad, sorry for himself & utterly dejected. He's obviously got huge problems. I wanted to tell him exactly how i felt & how hurt i was by how he treated me. Instead i just felt really sorry for him & although i still miss the memory of what we had i know it wasn't meant to be. I'm torn today, although i won't be contacting him as I'm trying to move on with my life :/. Anyone else felt like this?

Yes, its good, its a sign you have detached :)

I had a similar thing, for months I wanted to tell my ex husband exactly what a twat he was but when I actually saw him he looked like such utter shit I couldn't bring myself to do it. Not because I cared for him but because he was clearly battling his own demons & anything I said would have been like a drop into a massive ocean anyway. It would have been swallowed up by his other stuff.

You're doing the right thing letting it go & pinpointing that its not him that you missed, it is the person shaped hole that he occupied. Anyone else can fill those shoes. Onwards! :) :)

Ah thanks Midnight! I'm really pleased with myself because I've been sad about it all summer & I wanted him so much. Seeing him again made me realise he can't possibly deliver what I need at the moment...