Constant erection failure with condoms

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New here, so can't post under 'Sex'

What can I do about a new partner who consistently loses his erections the moment a condom goes on? We're newish, have lots of sexual fun, & he successfully gets decent looking erections but the moment that condom goes on, it withers & dies I'm a big fan of condoms & have never had this problem in the past. I feel like we communicate well, there seems to be no bashfulness in our learning each others bedroom likes & dislikes. He appears totally calm, relaxed & into it, until the last moment. He says he has a 'mental block' with them. Don't really fancy the female version or getting tested & going without. Anyone got any ideas?

Does he give up? Or does he focus on rocking your socks off?
Perhaps it would help if he focused on you for a while and let his erection catch up?

He'll carry on with 'other things' to give me a climax which is nice/considerate but I still end up gagging for proper piv & he never recovers a stiffy once it's lost, not even with oral, best he gets is a semi which is no use to anyone.

is he doing anything to sort his problem out? has he seen the doctor?
I think this is an erectile disfunction issue rather than a condom issue.

pocketsaviour. I saw that show live (back in the day).

As a young man I too used to control if I got an erection or not. It's a simple technique - watch football = no erection (mostly).
Look at a female = .... (You get the drift).

thank God I am not a young man

I have had this recently with a few men. It's sadly quite common. And the ease with which such men would ditch the condoms if given half the chance makes me sure that they don't regularly use condoms.

What is wrong with me? I've yet to meet a man who can't get it up with or without the aid of durex.

< sobs helplessly at thought of not being admitted to inner circle of sexual wisdom >

And the ease with which such men would ditch the condoms if given half the chance makes me sure that they don't regularly use condoms.

Yes - the guy who is saying he can't have sex with a condom is a guy very likely to be having unprotected sex. And then he asks the next woman to have unprotected sex. I wouldn't go near a man like this with a 10 ft pole.

Not to mention rather than get help/sort their problem out, they instead pressure or at least expect women to have unprotected sex with them.

I do think a lot of it is not being used to the sensation of a condom. Certainly when I used to use a female condom, the first few times were a bit odd, although my partner at that time didn't have a problem.

I wonder if masturbating with a condom as "practise" would help him?

Why doesn't he want to get tested? Even if you would switch to birth control pill, he'll need to get tested.