Hi all,
Just needed to get this off my chest. As you may (or may not lol) know I split from my husband back in July. I am currently living with my parents as I am totally skint and cannot afford anything of my own at the mo. Although my parents are being very supportive, I am finding it very difficult living there (especially as I hate being dependent on others), but am making the best of it. Also feeling a bit low because of many other things (to do with collapse of marriage).
Anyway to get to my point, my sister (who I am close to) has very bad clinical depression and is having a really hard time, in fact has just quit her job as she can't cope. She had another panic attack last night and as she lives with her fiance in a different town, my Mum has asked her to stay for the week so that we can give her extra support and her fiance a break, which is fine.
The trouble is, Mum and Dad only have three bedrooms, theirs, mine and DD's and this means my sister will have to share the double bed with me for a week. TBH I wouldn't have minded a while ago, but it has made me a little down as I don't get a huge amount of privacy anymore anyway and also, I am struggling a bit myself.
I feel I can't really say much to my parents as I don't want to bring them down whilst sis is so unhappy (Dad is also quite depressed at the moment). Also I feel guilty for the fact that I don't have much patience at the moment because I am not in a great place (job hunting, learning to drive - which terrifies me, don't have any friends who I can talk to or get out with, mourning the loss of having the family I dreamed of, in fact feel like my whole life has stopped) all this is making me feel horrible.
I love my sister very much and wish I could do more for her, but we have arranged what we can (she is on ADs and waiting for counselling) and can do little else. The thing is when she is with us she cries almost constantly and says how worthless her life is and, much as I hate to admit it, this brings me down. How can I be supportive and try to keep myself bouyed up at the same time? Has anyone been through this? I want to be strong for her, but not sink any lower myself, any tips appreciated.