I have posted once before and had great advice on a different topic. I'm here today because I feel like life is falling apart around me.
From the outside, I have a good job and nice family and friends, enough money etc. Life is good.
But a few months ago I ended a relationship with a man who constantly lied to me and wasn't genuine about wanting to have a future with me. I got tired of waiting and left. Mostly, I've been happier for it.
But I can't drag myself out of the past. I am 30 and spent the last 4 years of my life with my ex dp. We shared a beautiful home (rented as he 'wasn't ready to buy), and standard of living was better, shared finances etc. We had nice holidays and I always had that one companion to come with me to weddings or to look after me when I was poorly.
Now.. I am living alone (out of choice, and happy with that). But it's not the same as the home I had built with ex dp. I also feel very left out with my group of friends... We were friends with lots of couples so used to socialise like that. Literally every one of my friends is in a relationship, and I know the advice will be to meet more single people, but it's not that easy. I'm not the sort of person to join a random activity just to meet someone, I find it forced.
I spend time with friends and their other halves, but I can tell they don't value my advice on wedding plans as much as the other friends, as what would I know? I'm just single and would have no clue.
I also feel bitter about the fact that all my friends have that one person to travel with. I appreciated all those things so much with my ex dp and I crave my old life back so much.
I can't be with my ex because I know it would just be another route to waiting around while he decided to grow up and commit properly and take responsibility for building a life. It's not him that I miss, it's the life I spent so long building with him, and the sense of comfort you have with that one person who will listen if you've had a bad day or you just want to chat because you're on a train and bored.
I've also started having feelings of jealousy, even towards my younger brother and his gf who recently moved in together. I'm not a jealous person and I hate feeling this way. I seem to get angry and resentful a lot of the time, and often I will sit and think back to where I lived before and how happy I was.
I've been on some dates since I broke up with my ex and they do make me feel there is hope, but at the end of the day I'm 30, single and everyting I build up during my twenties has disappeared. I often feel like my life is just about getting through each day rather than living. I don't have feelings of depression as such, just a general feeling of wishing I could rewind time.
What a miserable person I sound!!! Any advice welcome.
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Wishing my life was different, feeling alone
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Papertoyz · 01/09/2015 13:29
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